Hi - I need some help.
I can't really figure out what the actual problem is here. You spend most of your post talking about the most trivial problem (looking at porn on youtube). I don't see why that's a big deal to you if you have a good sex life.
Are you uncomfortable w/ the You Tube videos because they are "real" women and not like "models" or whatever you'd call women who are in Playboy or porn?
"No, none of that is typical or acceptable. In fact, it raises many red flags.
<< I actually took it upon myself and locked him out of the YouTube last night. >>
Red flag alert!
If my lover acted like my mom, I'd be looking to supplement too. If nothing else, act out my independence as a man against mommy's wishes.
Given his job description, it's totally understandable that he doesn't wear a ring.