Husband can't keep his hands to himself
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Husband can't keep his hands to himself
| Wed, 12-21-2005 - 12:06pm |
My H & I have been married almost 5 yrs. He is a very touchy feely guy and in the beginning of our relationship he could never seem to keep his hands off of other females. He was just always trying to be funny. I told him that I didn't like it and it took a while for him to finally get it. Well, the other night we went bowling with another couple who we've known for a few years. My H was holding the door open and my friends H walked in first, me second and my friend behind me and my H behind her. I then heard her yell and then she said "Well, I guess I got my Christmas goose before Christmas". I knew immediately what he did. So, I asked her why she yelled and she said "You H pinched my butt". I was Livid. I would have never know that he did that if she hadn't yelled. I was going to talk to him about it the next day because I didn't want to spoil out time out with them. At first he tried to deny it but, then he said that he didn't know why he did it. I am so sick of his childish behavior. What you any of you think about this? Am I overreacting?

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#3 is your problem - he's been raised in an environment where his behavior to grope women was encouraged and rewarded - 'They all laugh & think he's funny.' That's his payoff. He thinks it's normal and mostly sees nothing wrong with touching women inappropriately until you bring it up. His mother, nor his sister has never said 'NO, stop that.' He talks 'sex' with is sister. He 'acts' like he's going to grab his mom, his sister and his niece....sad, I'd be willing to bet that all of these women don't feel 'desired' unless someone is groping them.
Undoing this would take a lot of work on his part in therapy. He has to want to change.
Carrie
<> I think you've shown pretty clearly that he is who he is, it's not subject to change. Like the CL pointed out, his older son acting like him pretty much tells you he's been like this forever, it's HIM, you know? He's been like this his whole life, of course it's not going to change, therapy or no therapy, five years or fifty years.
Sorry, but I think happiness is anywhere but with him.
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