Husband doesn't show respect
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|Thu, 08-09-2012 - 8:52am|
I have been with my husband for 24 years (we lived together for 22 years and got married 2 years ago).
Yesterday he was supposed to come home between noon and 1 o'clock to drop off my car. He did not show up and he did not call. His excuse was that he thought I would be sleeping (I have MS and get very fatigued) This was the straw that broke the camel's back. He never calls me when he is going to be late or when he arrives somewhere after a long drive (he always has an excuse I was too busy to call, I forgot.
It all comes down to lack of respect. He also shows no respect when we are with other people (he stares at other woman's breasts, is charming, is very outgoing and talkative whereas at home he sits in front of the tv with a blank stare and doesn't communicate. He has a nasty temper which he doesnt show often however I had always avoided making him angry. I am tired of pussyfooting around his anger and inability to have a discussion without his anger coming into play.
He has always made derogatory comments about me in front of other people-saying things about our sex life (his opinion about lack of) to family and frien "people think she is skinny but shes not -its just because she doesnt have a chest,, if you ever gain weight you are out of here, talking about women he comes in contact with everyday (work, coffee shop, neighbors) all the time to me, family, friends, neighbors and states he wonders how they would be in bed. We have a very good sex life and were always affectionate towards each other. I know I have allowed him to behave this way towards me because I am afraid of his anger issues (he has never hit me or threatened to-it is all emotional).
I am 50 and I do not want to live like this anymore however we do have good times occassionally. Oh yeah I forgot to tell you that in all the years we have been together we have never been away together alone for even a weekend and we do not go out together for an evening. He told me it was because we have kids.
Please help me get through this mess with some advice.