Husband going to lunch

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2011
Husband going to lunch
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Fri, 03-11-2011 - 8:44pm

I recently found out that my husband was meeting former and present female colleages for lunch for

years and never mentioned it to me.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2010
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 10:13pm

There is not enough information to formulate an opinion here.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 10:36pm

Welcome to the board, Pillowtalk123 ~

I agree with LilRed, we need more information to form opinions and give answers that can possibly be appropriate or helpful:


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 10:48pm
As another poster said it really depends on what he does for a living. Does his job require that he has business lunches with these former and present female colleages? Or was he just inviting these women to lunch just to be with them? If its the latter it sounds like he may have been up to no good for a while and that's why he never told you about them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2011
Sat, 03-12-2011 - 5:45pm

He is self employed in the financial field and these lunches were not necessary.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 03-12-2011 - 8:43pm

How did you find out?

Missy
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 1:03am
He never told you simply because he did not want you to know he was doing this. He wanted to hide this from you because he knows you would not approve of this behavior. Just curious, does he keep his phone locked or pass code protected?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 2:03pm

Does he also meet men for business luncheons?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2010
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 4:08pm

This thread really got me thinking about how business relationships can effect personal relationships.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 5:38am

They may not have been necessary, but I'd say they were certainly in the realms of workplace courtesy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 2:49pm
I think if this was strictly business and completely innocent, then there was no reason to hide all these lunches with multiple women from his wife. Lies of omission are still lies.

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