Husband insensitive to grieving

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Registered: 11-23-2008
Husband insensitive to grieving
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 3:38pm

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 1:00pm
I don't blame her either. I think though that there are 2 kinds of men in this world. One is the sensitive type that are very in tune to his SO needs and feelings and good at comforting. Two is the kind that are very uncomfortable around women when they are emotional or crying, their just not good at comforting and don't handle it well. Could be her H is a #2 type of guy.
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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 8:53pm
The big question is, have you told him that you would like to get away? I don't think there is anything wrong with him wanting to be around family and friends during this time. If you're not feeling up to it then don't go and let him go if he wants to. Yes, you are grieving, but sometimes those that support us need a break too. It's a give and take...ya know? He may need to go out and have some fun as a distraction away from the heavy stuff. As long as he is mostly being supportive then he deserves a break too.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 1:06am
You bring up a good point that there may be a reason he's not being very supportive. Could be some (or a lot) of built up past resentment about other things causing his lack of sensitivity to her grieving. I think a good question would be has he been sensitive in the past to other things that have hurt her or has be always been like this?

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