Husband Just Doesn't "Get It"

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Registered: 02-12-2007
Husband Just Doesn't "Get It"
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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 6:14pm

My husband and I have been married for 22 years. In that period, we've moved 7 times to various states all over the southeast. Well, 9 months ago, he got laid off.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 8:14pm

How do I get him to listen and try to reach some sort of compromise?

What kind of compromise is there?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2007
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 8:35pm

I completely understand your point of

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 9:15pm

Yes; I agree with the Other poster.. You have posted about the same exact thing over and over.

why dont you get a job where you live and support you and DD.. Let your husband go to his job near his mom and

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 9:16pm

OK, there seems to be several separate issues here:

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 9:37pm

Well in reality your DH can't "force" you to move--you have every right not to go, but you have to consider what the consequences would be.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 10:10pm
Do you plan to stay there until your house sells? If you have to buy another house before your current one sells, how will you be able to afford 2 houses with him just starting out at a new job? And what if it takes a long time to sell your current house? Have you 2 talked about all this?
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Registered: 09-17-2005
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 5:10am
Doxie, you keep posting about the same problem, people give you advice, you never respond, and then you come back complaining about the same problem so you seemingly never take anyone's advice. What exactly are you looking for when you post here and ask for help?

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Relationship-Problems/Not-Too-Thrilled-About-Moving-AGAIN/m-p/115859785/highlight/true#M43017

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Relationship-Problems/Possible-Impending-Move-Lots-Of-Stress/m-p/118651193/highlight/true#M46320
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Registered: 02-12-2007
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 8:53am

I apologize for continuing to post about the same problem...I know that gets on a lot of people's nerves. Maybe I'm simply looking for confirmation that I'm not alone in how I feel about moving close to my in-laws.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 11:49am

I understand where you are coming from.

We have moved 5 times for DH's career.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 2:35pm

Do you think your DH would agree to go to marriage counseling?

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