Husband may want a divorce

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Registered: 08-02-2006
Husband may want a divorce
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Mon, 09-11-2006 - 2:17pm
My husband has not been very nice to me in the last 6 months..Sometimes I react and sometimes I ignore...After this weekend, he was more insulting than ever...i spent much of the weekend in the bedroom watching TV...I asked him this am if he wants to remain married and he said he was not sure.......I don't know what to do to make him happy in our marriage.....I have 2 kids from my 1st marriage that will be heartbroken if this one should end too.....heartbroken in California
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 3:48pm

Why hasn't he been nice? What does he give as the reason(s)? And what is not nice?

Jen



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Registered: 08-02-2006
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 3:55pm
He will say something to me and I didn't quite hear him and I'll ask him what he said and he might say something like "nobody's talking to you", when I'm the only other person in the room..Or he will walk out of a room and close the door in my face, or he will wave me off when I'm trying to say something, or if I say something about dreaming about a specific car I would like to buy (my car is 8 years old) he will fly off the handle and call me selfish, a bratt ect (keep in mind I was just kind of dreaming), he ALWAYS says I'm lying about everything, just crap like that.....
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 5:55pm

Just a couple of questions before I chime in.

There would be a reason that you haven't already left. So, what positive attributes does he have? In other words, why are you still there?

Do your children ever see him treat you badly?

What was your marriage like in the time prior to this recent six months?

Have you suggested counselling?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 8:35pm

Yeah, I have to ask the same thing. What is there good that makes you stay with a guy who treats you disrespectfully and calls you names?

Jen



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 10:48pm
It sounds like you've been having problems in your marriage for a long time and it's boiled down to the point that it's at now. What was the beginning of your problems? How long have you been having trouble, and why? There's a lot of history here that we're completely unaware of, and it factors in most importantly in this situation. To resolve the anger and petty issues you have, we'll have to understand what caused it, where it started, and what's happened.


I'll be checking back for your answers ~








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