I did something really immature ....

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Registered: 04-05-2003
I did something really immature ....
Thu, 05-08-2003 - 3:13pm
The other day.I have never done this before..so I'm ashamed... Lets start at beginning, my husband, when he gets angry at me, won't talk to me and goes to another room to watch TV ,acts like a baby,(this can last for days or weeks) or sometimes he takes things that I have placed somewhere, and puts them in the "junk" room.(mad or not) To me, it appears he just throws it in there. Anyway the other day I had burned some incense,(it was out)and before he got home I had fell asleep on the couch due to a headache. When I woke up, I had a box sitting beside the couch, that had some things I had ordered thru the mail in it. And he had thrown the incense burner and ashes and all, in the box. Before I had woke up, he had already went to bed....I went and got dirt out of my plant and put it in his shoes and dusted it in his bookcase.(I'm Awful, but I had, had three years of this!)I was pissed!!! The next day, I took down all the pictures of us together, and items he had purchased for me, and us, together,cards ect. in a box, and put them in the "junk room", in plain sight, for him to see. Later on, he asked where the clock was we picked out was, I said "I didnt want it up there anymore" he said "why?" I said " I just don't". He was quiet for a long while. Now he's as nice as can be. But I don't want to back off, because I cant tolerate this behavior anymore. But I hated resorting to his level. What should I do? Put our memorables back? SweetMulberry
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Fri, 05-09-2003 - 2:03am
Welcome back Sweet Mulberry! Please do us (and yourself) a favor and repost your problem in the General Discussion folder located at the top of the board. You've posted in the Off Topic Folder, which is meant for articles, etc. Most won't look in this folder for a post needing response. Thanks!


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Registered: 05-24-2003
Mon, 05-26-2003 - 3:06pm
Its not as bad as you think. Everybody does things like that once in a while. Immature things. You can't change it now, but I wouldn't worry about it so much.
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Registered: 04-03-2003
Fri, 06-20-2003 - 7:34pm
Hmmm, please don't get offended, but i really think HE is acting completely and utterly childish. A JUNK ROOM? He doesn't like your incencse, SO DUMPS IT IN A BOX OF YOUR THINGS? where did he grow up?? In a zoo? That behavior is ASININE!Don't give in to his childish antics, rant!!! i really liked that you did it back to him though :) GOOD JOB! since im not aware of your relationship exactly, i could be overreacting, but from what you posted, i'm even pissed reading it! WHO DOES THAT? how old is he? 10? good luck!
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 4:22pm
i think its funny....good idea with the sand in his shoes. she if he does that to you again. LOL.


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Registered: 08-05-2003
Mon, 08-11-2003 - 10:42pm
I'm sorry but what a bas$#ard. He put incense ashes in new clothes you ordered? What kind of human being does that? He sounds like he has emotional problems. Abusive? Control freak? name caller?