I don't enjoy my boyfriends kisses!!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
I don't enjoy my boyfriends kisses!!
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 6:12pm
I just got together with a great guy. He is sweet, good looking, smart. However, his kisses always taste bad to me. This has never happened to me in previous relationships. Before I see him I always brush my teeth and I carry mints. I always hope that he will take notice of my efforts and do the same. Usually, I will purposely offer him some but he rejects them. It's always the same thing, he tastes bad and even worse his breath always smells. I know that soon we will move our relationship forward to intimacy, and sadly i'm fearing that. I'm scared that I will be turned off by the thought of kissing him.

I don't want to tell him about this because I'm scared of hurting his feelings. However, I would like to know of any subtle ways to fix this problem. I care about him alot, please help!

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Registered: 07-27-2000
Tue, 05-13-2003 - 1:49am
Well, if you don't tell him, then what? Nothing, right? You can let him know without totalling him as a human being, believe me, been there. My bet is he already knows he has halitosis. It's often caused by gum disease (which can lead to severe health problems, by the way) and more recently now they're back to saying stomach problems can cause halitosis (they ko'd that idea a few years ago, but now they say h. pylori bacteria that goes hand in hand with ulcers can definitely cause bad breath). Could be because he smokes, because he had sinus trouble, because he has awful dental habits, because, because, because. There are plenty of things he can do, but his first step is having his dentist do a very thorough check-up. If you can't discuss THIS one with him, and do it with love and kindness, it doesn't bode well for your future. Just do it.

 


~~joannaran~~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 5:00pm
Please please please do NOT have sex with a man if you don't feel comfortable telling him intimate things and letting him know IN CLEAR ENGLISH exactly what you need and want.

DON'T.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 9:17pm
Don't be subtle. Tell him nicely, but tell him and get it over with.

Mac

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Registered: 04-28-2003
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 7:00am
Tell him. He needs to know. True friends hurt feelings when they ultimately in the long run help the other person. Even if he gets mad at you. Tell him. He needs to know.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Mon, 05-19-2003 - 9:22pm
wow. this is a tough one..sounds like you've tried all the subtle hints to help him out...I think the only thing left is to simply say to him straight out that he has a problem and that its an issue for you. Its obvious you care about him, but there's nothing less sexy than bad breath! kissing is so important! i think you need to pluck up the courage to drop a verbal hint.....