I just don't understand.....
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I just don't understand.....
| Mon, 07-03-2006 - 12:31am |
In a nutshell I lived with a man for four years. I moved into his home with my two children. It is a nice home but outdated and very small for four people, it was built in the 50’s and could badly use some renovation. Anyway, the whole time I lived with him he proclaimed he was never moving, was going to retire in this home, how much he loved this house, etc, etc. Well, we split up and I bought a house on my own now, but we still date. My problem is, not even two months after I moved out…, he put his house on the market. This kind of irritated me. Why when three other people lived there, moving was out of the question, but now….. ? So I asked him why he was selling and he said because he wanted something bigger. This answer irritated me more, but I didn’t push the issue because it seemed irrelevant at this point, I am already gone. Well, he called me today to tell me it sold and I have been bothered ever since. Our not seeing eye to eye with wanting and needing a bigger house had been brought up many times during our time together but that subject always ended with the fact that he Loved his house, was happy with his house and where it was located and he was never selling, yet once we were gone…, he sold it. Now that he lives there alone, he needs a bigger house but when four people lived ther, it was fine. I am trying to understand this.

The only person who knows the answer to this is him. Either he's had a colossal change of mind or he's not telling you his real reason. Whichever it is, the result is you don't understand because it doesn't make sense. I'd quit trying, but I'd also recognize that I'm in a relationship with someone who isn't always as honest as he should be. While he's not obligated to give you his reasons, he should tell you that he chooses not to discuss the subject with you rather than give you lame answers that aren't plausible.
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
If he won't tell you (honestly) you will never probably know so here is a list of possibles you can pick from so you can put this behind you.....
(1) Sometimes people are not honest when they are in a relationship
(2) Sometimes they will make up whatever excuse they need to that works with you to get what they want
(3) Sometimes when people go through a break-up of a long term relationsip they change past beliefs
(4) Sometimes people just grow and change
Pick one....OK now focus on creating a great life going forward.
;>) P.
I'll take a wild guess and tell you what I think happened.