I just saw my EX, why am I feeling this?

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Registered: 09-21-2006
I just saw my EX, why am I feeling this?
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 8:28am

Hi!
Please help!

I have been with my fiance for almost 2 1/2 years now and we are getting married in a few months. I love my fiance with all of my heart and would never ever leave him. We have the perfect relationship, I couldn't ask for more. If I could pick everything I would want in a man from personality to looks, my fiance is it.

So here is the problem, I just saw my EX...
We didn't talk, I just saw him out with another GF. I didn't feel jealous of the girl or wanted to be in her shoes, I just felt that I wanted him to still like me. For example,I want to hang out with him and not do things(sexual things), but just want him to fuse over me, why am I feeling like this?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:11pm

I think it's a common feeling to not want your ex to get over you.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:23pm

So there is nothing to worry about?

Our relationship ended abruptly and things were never resolved... Could it be those things I am feeling?

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Registered: 12-31-2004
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:41pm

you write: "Our relationship ended abruptly and things were never resolved."

I think things are resolved nicely--you've got a fiance who loves you and he's with someone else. The resolve is that you two weren't meant to be together...he didn't want to be in your life and took the coward's way to demonstrate that to you.

Now you have a loving man who wants you in his life so much that he's marrying you in a few months... that's all the resolve you need.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:50pm
I agree with quenek -- while things may not have been resolved in quite the way you'd hoped, they are nevertheless resolved.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:52pm
Yeah your right, I just wish I didn't feel like that when I see him, I think a part of selfishness plays a role, like I want him to like me and no one else, even though I don't like him.
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 2:07pm
Are these normal feelings though?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:51pm
Welcome to the board, Confused916 ~


Like Kim said in her first response, it's a common feeling to not want your ex to get over you. I don't think it would make a difference if you'd resolved things. Many of us don't get resolution in ending relationships, it's something you just have to accept and move on from -- and it sounds like you have. I think it's very common to feel a twinge of "I want him to like me and no one else, even though I don't like him." I know I've felt that.


Shake it off and let it go, you'll be fine, it means nothing.








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when you don't get what you want."

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 7:49am

Thank you! :)

Yeah, I guess everyone is right, I just feel guilty that I feel like that, because I know my fiance would never, he is too perfect.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 10:03am

"because I know my fiance would never, he is too perfect."


This may be a bit of a digression but the above statement is a bit unnerving for me.

Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 11:08am
I say that because he is my perfect match. I believe in soulmates and he is my one. I know no one is "perfect" but he is perfect in my eyes and I love his discretions because they are his.

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