I know you're out there....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
I know you're out there....
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 5:46am

...I can hear you breathing!


Besides, the number of "hits" (views) the posts are getting tells me you're out there, so how come I feel so alone???? Do I need new deodorant??? Breath mints??? I swear I shower every day!


Who are you??? Where are you??? C'mon guys, these members deserve more input than they're getting -- how can they get the points of view of many if "many" are just reading and not offering their thought? Not that lurking isn't okay too, but it's nicer if I don't feel like I'm in an empty room, they're kinda echo-y and it gets lonely, you know? ;o)


How about all you lurkers and passers-by let me know you're out there by posting to this thread? A little conversation and idle chit-chat is a good thing!





~ cl-2nd_life

"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."

~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:

Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 1:46am

Hey Kim ~


I don't mean to make you think lurking isn't okay, it is! But when it's me and one other person posting replies I begin to wonder if I'm talking to an empty room, you know? Besides, I can get a little unsure myself....are they not posting because they think I'm nuts??? It's a baaaad thing when psychosis begins to set in! And from the OP's point of view, what's the point in posting to a "dead" board that you're not going to get any responses on? Personally, I think even hitting the "agree" icon and saying "Agree 100% with the others (or single out the ones you agree with)" is absolutely fine, and it lets the OP know another person has given their opinion on the issue.


Summer's a crazy time, I know I'm beyond busy myself; it's impossible to have time for everything you want/need to do. It's not mandatory that anyone post, busy or not. I have to say though, I think your responses are dead-on right and love to see you on the board, you, and the others who have chimed in here are truly assets.







~ cl-2nd_life

"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."

~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:

Sexual Pleasure




~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 2:17am

I hear you loud and clear, Jen, and am glad to know that you won't be deterred if you feel strongly. I'm the same way -- big shock, huh? ;-) What might be a shock to you, though, is that I hate confrontation. That doesn't mean I don't engage in it, I do, because I feel that unless you confront problems/issues that bother you, nothing will change and there is no growth. I still hate it though. As far as your way not being as prevalent, we're all different (and thank God we are), without it, life would be pretty boring, wouldn't it?


On the elbow thing...Rats! I never took you for someone who'd take me up it!







~ cl-2nd_life

"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."

~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:

Sexual Pleasure




~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:11am

Winged pigs lining the streets -- lol! Geez, you hate when what you'd been saying turns out to be dead-on right, don't you? Especially when he was so adamant that you were wrong. I wonder what's up with her? Sounds like she's exhibiting some pretty significant behavioral changes.


So how long are you going to be able to let this continue before you set him straight? I assume there's an end in sight for this project? Everybody thinks their thinking is right, but if faced with the double standards he expects, I don't think he'd be able to come up with a plausible defense. He can spend every waking hour hunched over the computer, but you're wrong to spend time on the computer yourself when you should be with him instead? I have a feeling this isn't his usual, I don't see you as someone who would accept that kind of thing too often or too long. Do you suppose he's feeling a little vulnerable (for lack of a better word) since the friend he's known and been so sure of is proving to be a bit of a flake? That and the project combined could prove to be a bit stressful and anxiety producing. Keep us posted on unfolding developments!







~ cl-2nd_life

"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."

~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:

Sexual Pleasure

~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 3:47am

You mean to tell me Pam is the only lurker out there? Come on you guys, pop in and say "Hi"!


There are more of you who post that aren't 'fessing up too. C'mon, let us know you're out there!







~ cl-2nd_life

"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."

~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:

Sexual Pleasure








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 6:10pm
I'm here too! I'm pretty much here every day reading, but I was off last week so I wasn't around to see these threads until now. Just want you to know this is my favorite board, cl-2ndlife. I said the reasons that I think it's gotten so slow in another thread http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcouplescou&msg=8957.22

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