I make more money than my boyfriend
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|Thu, 03-06-2014 - 4:26pm|
I am not sure what to do anymore. I make more money than my boyfriend. It really just comes down to my Bachelor degree and him only having his Associates. At one point in our relationship we were both unemployed. Eventually I got a job at some awful place and only lasted 4 months before i found a better job making more money. I think he was taken aback as to how much more money i make. He finally got a job but he's terribly overworked and makes way less than i. He's already admitted that he needs to find a new job but it's been a year now and he hasn't even worked on his resume. I use to be on top of him until he said he'd get to it on his own. So i figure i give him his space and trust him to do it on his own. Instead all he does is complain about his job and how he just doesn't want to work anymore. I'm just so frustrated with him! We are both in our 30s and have been dating for over 4 years now. I am at a point where i am ready to move forward with my life in terms of marriage, buying a house and having kids etc. I have no doubt that he wants to spend the rest of our lives together. I just feel he's not proactive enough and that scares me. Actually it stresses me out! I’ve already assumed the responsibility of putting the down payment on a house. I guess as the person who makes more money in the relationship I’m willing to dole out the money accordingly. But I’m also afraid that if I start doling out money he just might get too comfortable. I have been patient for him to find another job and be financially ready but I get this crazy feeling that if I don’t talk about it, the situation loses its urgency. I hate this situation because I feel like I’m being selfish and inconsiderate but on the other hand I’m afraid my boyfriend isn’t the type to apply himself. I thought I accepted all these shortcomings at the beginning of our relationship. I don’t want this to be about money but it's the one thing holding...him back. Any advice? I'm not even sure what's my question. Thanks.