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I need advice please!
| Tue, 10-17-2006 - 4:18pm |
I found out today that I am three four weeks pregnant. I am 20 years old and NOT ready to care for a child. (I can barely make time for my dog!) I am in a strong, healthy, happy relationship. I love the man I am with, but here is my problem. He does not believe in terminating a pregnancy for any reason. I haven't told him yet, because if I do he WILL expect me to keep it. I am not emotionally ready for this responsibility. Finically I am in debt currently working to get out of it. I have a small sports car and would have to get rid of it (for obvious reason if I had a child) and cannot afford to do that either. I don't even have health insurance! In the next 6 months the both us will receive promotions in our company and and will be working 6 days out of the week, maybe 7 days depending on how much work needs to be done. Just the other day he was telling me how for once in years his life is finally on track. He has a great job, a great relationship and life is where he wants it. I know I want to be with him and in the future marry him, but I don't want this to change the relationship and make him feel like had had to be with me because I'm am having his child. This is just never the way I wanted to start a relationship. I just don't know what to do!?! I haven't told any friends, I just need some advice from you ladies.

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Call your department of social services / welfare / medicaid and get signed up for medical care. Sometimes it's county health department, or department of human services.
I'm almost certain that you'll qualify since you're PG with no medical insurance.
You're going to be fine when it's all said and done. We're here for you.
:)
Jenn
Hey Nikki,
Honesty with yourself first and foremost is going to be the best thing for you going forward.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
2nd (or is it 3rd'ing?) the 2 PPs, you should qualify for Medicaid that will cover the pregnancy and your baby for the 1st year. You can call the people that have been suggested, you can call a drs office and find out who to talk with, or you can Google your state and medicaid and see what it tells you.
Jen
I have to say, I do NOT advocate drastically changing your diet immeadiately after birth. Especially going to a vegetarian diet unless you KNOW how to eat balanced and healthy vegetarian wise. Not only that but there are numerous fruits and veggies that give gas and switching like that can severely loosen stools (which is NOT fun immeadiately after birth.)
I didn't have a problem eating my normal foods. But if you think you might want to change eating habits, start altering them slightly now and become educated to make sure you are eating the right amounts of the proper nutrients.
Jen
if it doesn't appeal to you, then that's you...
Talk to an obgyn and follow their advice. Or get the "What to Expect when You're Expecting" and follow the diet listed in it. You'll do just fine! None of us knew what we were doing at the beginning, we all learn as we go along.
Jen
Edited 10/20/2006 12:21 pm ET by imasillynut
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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