I need some help(sorry so long)

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Registered: 04-23-2003
I need some help(sorry so long)
Fri, 06-13-2003 - 9:35pm
My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and 9 months. It feels like since I went away 9 months ago he's changed ever so slightly and more and more. At frist he started saying no he didn't want to do this or that until finally it's that he NEVER wants to do anythin. Not even come over to my house, or I go to his, to sit and talk. It also seems that when ever we are together it just turns into sex, I'm not saying that it's not passionate, but we never really get to talk. He does not really like talking to me on the phone anymore, where as before we'd stay up all night talking. We broke up last month because neither one of us was really happy, he says he wasn't happy because I wasn't happy, and I wasn't happy because I never got to see him. So we broke up, and we talked about it for a while. Then we decided to get back together. It's only been a couple weeks since we got back together, but I'm not sure if it's really going to change for the better. Exams are right now, so now is a tough time for the both of us with studying and everything. But, I'm still afraid that nothing is going to change. Before I went away that long while ago we used to tell each other EVERYTHING. Now he tells me so little, and I don't tell him much because he doesn't seem to care. How can I try and fix this problem, I know it is sort of a big problem now, but I am willing to do anything to make it work. I need some advice on how to get him to open up more, and to want to spend more time with me. I know when he does he loves every minuite of it, but we do so little together I feel alone most of the time. Can somebody please help us?