I answered you on the other board, but just wanted to point out that this cat thing is just one more reason why the two of you are not going to work out.
Welcome back, Livlafluv2009 ~
I want to provide the links to your previous posts so that others can get a better feel for your situation and history, and so you can have the opportunity to read through them.
Liflafluv2009, it looks like no matter how many red flags there are, how much you have to give up to be in this low level, unacceptable relationship, you're determined to tie yourself to a man who will make your life unhappy and cause you hurt and damage.
I'm sorry you're so willing to destruct so much of your life and those you care about for someone who shows you continually how little he has to offer you.
Do you really feel he is the only possible man you could meet who could accept your handicapped child?
Sweetie, the long and short of it is that the right man for you will have no problem with your adoption plans.
Musiclover and Geoteo, I completely agree that this man is not suitable for the OP.
Although it's great that he accepts your daughter. Are you ready to accept that he belittles you and tries to control you? This behavior would become much worse if you ever did move in with him. So if you want to stay with him I suggest that you DON'T move in with him cause that's when the R will probably go sour as you will begin to resent his controlling behavior.
Blue, you are right, and I apologize for my frivolous comment.