I definitely agree w/ you there.
I feel bad that the OP has so much on her plate to cope with. It is hard enough when you are single, with no children and trying to find the 'right' man. But when you have three kids and one with a disability, it makes it ten times harder. I can understand how the OP is comparing her husband to this man, who seems to treat her better than her husband did. I am not saying he is the perfect fit, but I can understand why she is scared to let go of him. The reason he may be able to handle her child now is because he is not dealing with her 24/7, but only once a week or so. He has breaks and she does not. Before moving in with him or making any major committment with him, I would have him be around more. He should also be coming to your place more often. At least once during the week, even if only for a couple hours. I lived 2 hours away from my man and we lasted over 9 years, but we did move in togethe after
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Blue, you are right, and I apologize for my frivolous comment.
Although it's great that he accepts your daughter. Are you ready to accept that he belittles you and tries to control you? This behavior would become much worse if you ever did move in with him. So if you want to stay with him I suggest that you DON'T move in with him cause that's when the R will probably go sour as you will begin to resent his controlling behavior.
Musiclover and Geoteo, I completely agree that this man is not suitable for the OP.
Sweetie, the long and short of it is that the right man for you will have no problem with your adoption plans.
Do you really feel he is the only possible man you could meet who could accept your handicapped child?
Liflafluv2009, it looks like no matter how many red flags there are, how much you have to give up to be in this low level, unacceptable relationship, you're determined to tie yourself to a man who will make your life unhappy and cause you hurt and damage.
I'm sorry you're so willing to destruct so much of your life and those you care about for someone who shows you continually how little he has to offer you.
Welcome back, Livlafluv2009 ~
I want to provide the links to your previous posts so that others can get a better feel for your situation and history, and so you can have the opportunity to read through them.