I feel bad that the OP has so much on her plate to cope with. It is hard enough when you are single, with no children and trying to find the 'right' man. But when you have three kids and one with a disability, it makes it ten times harder. I can understand how the OP is comparing her husband to this man, who seems to treat her better than her husband did. I am not saying he is the perfect fit, but I can understand why she is scared to let go of him. The reason he may be able to handle her child now is because he is not dealing with her 24/7, but only once a week or so. He has breaks and she does not. Before moving in with him or making any major committment with him, I would have him be around more. He should also be coming to your place more often. At least once during the week, even if only for a couple hours. I lived 2 hours away from my man and we lasted over 9 years, but we did move in togethe after
~ Tina ~
I definitely agree w/ you there.