To ignore?

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Registered: 08-13-2006
To ignore?
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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:32am

Ok ladies, I have a question for you. I am dating a very beautiful, well endowed lady. Things are great but there is a small problem(at least on my behalf). Whenever we go somewhere from the mall to walking down the street there are always stares and comments from men. This bugs the hell out of me and more often than not I want to just say something to them. In my eyes they are disrespecting her which REALLy pisses me off but she says she has heard all that all her life and she just ignores it and to acknowledge them is just waht they want. I would like to know how some of you handle it when everywhere you go you get comments and such and am I out of line.

Thanks
Junkie

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: dirtjunkie21
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:11pm

What kind of comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: dirtjunkie21
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:27am
Lol, I guess you did! I can only answer for myself on how I deal with it. Frankly, most of the stares I don't see and wouldn't be aware of if my husband didn't inform me of them. I'm not looking at the crowd as we go by, I'm focused on where we're going, you know, looking ahead, how would I know who's looking at me? As far as comments go; again here typically, people are always talking to people they're with,etc. as you go by, I don't really listen because I don't assume they're talking to me. On the occasions that it's clear they're talking to me, and if they've said something rude or inappropriate I look straight at them, and in a very calm, unassuming way simply say, "Excuse me?" Being politely asked to repeat something that's rude or inappropriate generally leaves these guys mumbling and walking off. Once, and only once, did my husband feel he needed to get involved, and then all he did was step between me and the guy and say in a jovial manner, "Easy there, fella" as we kept walking by.


Interestingly enough, while we were away at the beach this week, we encountered a reverse situation. My daughter and I were in a shop looking around while my husband was waiting outside with the dogs. Upon leaving the shop I found my husband quite "engaged" by a woman who was clearly trying to pick him up. *lol! Cracked me up!* I just casually walked up beside her (she basically had my husband pinned against the building) and said casually to my husband, "Hey, you ready to go?", she mumbled something about not knowing he was with anyone, I smiled and said goodbye to her and we walked on.








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