I'm always right and the world is wrong............
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|Sun, 04-13-2014 - 5:02pm|
..........according to him. Hi everyone. I am new here but feel like I'm going crazy but then I realize that I don't think it's me!
I really don't. Sometimes the way I handle issues isn't very grown up (I'm 53) but I despise confrontation. I met my man on
match.com in December of 2009. He is four years younger than me. We fell in love quickly and in March of 2012 we got engaged.
I have two sons who are 12 years apart in age, both born in my marriage to their father. The younger one is now 16 and lives with me.
He is in one of the best public high schools in the State so I told my fiance that it would be a long engagement as I do not want to move
out of this town until he graduates in June of 2015. That was fine, we aren't in a hurry but we do want to be able to spend all our available
time together. He lives about 50 minutes from me in another state and usually we only see each other on weekends. He used to come over
during the week but stopped doing that a little over a year ago. Anyway...........in March we had a tiff and he blew me off for almost two weeks. Our
usual way of communication is he calls me in the evening and hangs up. I get unlimited long distance on my home phone so i call him back and
we talk for a little while. This is the way it ALWAYS is. Well, in March we had the tiff and he didn't call me. After a week of waiting I texted him and he told me
that the phone works both ways. I said funny how you only say that when you're not happy with me. He blew off my son's performance with his language
class at school, he was supposed to come with me. No call, nothing but since he stopped communicating I suppose he figured he didn't have to
show up. This upset me because it's my son, not me, that was depending on him being there. Anyway, he ended up showing back up and we never
talked about what went wrong. Things were ok for a couple weeks, he cooked me dinner and baked me a cake for my birthday. Then last weekend it
all went wrong again. He is a contractor so we spend a lot of time at Home Depot getting prices on the weekend. I don't mind going along. He knew that I
wanted to get some potting soil there for a couple of weeks (for my container garden) but because the weather was horrible and we had almost 6" of rain in
one weekend......it had to wait so I asked him if we could stop in the garden shop when he was done. I walked around patiently waiting for him to do what he
needed to get done and we got in his truck and I THOUGHT he was driving over to the garden section but he kept going on out of the parking lot. So, I just
said, Oh, I guess I can come back with A (my son) to get the dirt. He offered to go back but I declined as we had plans to go hiking and I wanted to just go. Well,
he went off on me like there's no tomorrow! He yelled at me something about what is the difference if you pay $1 more or $1 less for DIRT???? I told him it didn't matter,
I just wanted to get some so I can get my seeds started. The rest of the day was not fun. I closed down a little because I was verbally attacked and it's hard
for me to be happy go lucky when someone just screamed at me over bags of dirt. We hardly spoke the whole 4 mile hike, the ride up and back too. When we got
back to my house he packed his bag and said goodbye and left. No hug or kiss or anything.
Should I have called him?
He seems to think i should have.
I texted him on Wednesday saying I know he is stressed but we are on the same team, or so I thought. I told him that I did not deserve him
yelling at me over a bag of dirt and that he can be such a bully and I DON'T have to take it and I WON'T.
His response was that I had one thing to remember and I forgot and that was his fault. That I am always the victim and am always right
and the world is wrong.
I told him that I didn't forget, he did. After I patiently waited for him.
He said and I quote "you didn't have to go with me...I would have been gone and back before you even woke up so who waited for who?"
Well, EXCUSE me if I don't get up at 5:00 a.m. on weekends. It was never a problem before for me to sleep till 8 or so. I told him he was a jerk and that I
wanted to go and that I thought we'd do our errands together. An hour later I apologized for calling him a jerk and it was uncalled for. I told him that if he
was trying to hurt me with his comments then to consider himself successful.
Have not heard from him since. I have spent the weekend by myself. I have managed to occupy myself all weekend but this bugs me. Did I do or
say something wrong? Is it me? If it is........I need to know. I am seriously thinking of calling off the wedding. I did take my ring off last night but I put it
Please help. I'm a crazy person. Apparently.