Jealous of Husband's business trip!

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Registered: 03-28-2006
Jealous of Husband's business trip!
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 5:18pm

My husband is in San Francisco right now. Just found out that in mid April he is slated to go to Ireland for a week. Ireland!!!! Only one of the top three places I want to go visit before I die! No, there is no way for me to go - finances, my job, kids... it's just not possible.

I am eaten up with jealousy right now! I can't even talk to him I'm so jealous. I am terrible about hiding how I feel and nothing I have to say right now is constructive. He already knows I'm jealous and upset about it. I told him I need some space until I get some sanity and distance from it. So that is why I am here.

Please help me find some sanity and distance on this! I know I am being a baby, I know I should be happy for him, but I'm NOT! LOL I'm wickedly jealous! Does anyone have any helpful advice?

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 5:31pm

Nope, I have no advice. But you're not alone. Being a SAHM I get jealous of all DH's Xmas parties....and in his industry, O/S travel is always a possibility. O/S travel is not happening now, but it has in the past and could happen in the future.

I'm honest with DH about how I feel - but I do it in a nice way. I will laughingly tell him how jealous I am (even if I'm burning up inside)

At the end of the day, neither of our husbands is doing anything wrong - and therefore it would be wrong of us to take out our frustrations on them. I think that this is one of those things where we just have to suck it up and get on with life....simply because there is no other reasonable option.

My only thought for you is perhaps you and he (or you and some girlfriends) could plan a nice holiday to look forward to.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:20pm

A few questions to make sure I've got the right feel for where you are. At first I was focused on the trip to Ireland, and I understand that this is the one place you've dreamed of going so it's huge, but now I'm wondering, since you mentioned he's in San Francisco right now, are you envious every time he gets to travel and this one just takes the cake or is your jealousy only on the Ireland trip? You also mention being a SAHM, and the fact that you mention it makes me wonder if you get out; out of town is great and important, but what about just out of the house on your own for you own pleasure --- grocery/kid shopping doesn't count!


Secondly, have you truly checked out the finances or do you just *know* it's beyond your reach? Since his hotel and meals will already be paid for, it'll never be cheaper for you to go. If you haven't investigated actual cost and at least made an attempt to see if there isn't some way you could make it work I think you're doing yourself a disservice.


I'll be checking back for your answers!







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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:00am

Sulga, I'm hoping you'll stop back by with the answers to the questions I've asked, it's not that I didn't have any suggestions for you, it's that I wasn't sure what direction to go without having more information and a better understanding. It might also be important for you to know that several members who generally respond on this board will sit back and wait for your answers before responding. There may be several members who have ideas and suggestions that could help you, but they may be waiting for answers to the same questions I asked.








~ cl-2nd_life

"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."

~ Author unknown








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"