Just need a few different perspectives! Thank you!

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Registered: 09-23-2004
Just need a few different perspectives! Thank you!
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Thu, 10-06-2011 - 11:43am

My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years and were together for 2 years before that.

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Registered: 02-15-2008

Hi Kristy,

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Registered: 07-29-2002

That is a tough situation.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Is the man that you had a crush on still in the same VB league?

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Welcome to the board, Kristy7lynn ~
First, I want you to know that I don't think

~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2004

Thank you all so much for taking the time to read and respond - what a caring group of individuals on this board!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
I wonder if you are honest with yourself, you "knew" that meeting your crush would not lead to anything but it MAY have if he came on to you.
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001

Your husband admits to having long standing trust issues, were you aware of these trust issues before this incident?


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2004

I knew he had issues with some of my male friends from college whom I work with.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2004

Thanks for that thought and I thought about that A LOT when this all went down - I was very interested in why I had developed a crush to begin with and what it meant about myself and my marriage.

I think I'm someone that likes the chase - I know that's awful.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2004
He is and I'm avoiding that league currently. There are just very few opportunities to play where I live and its possible that if I don't play in that league (since that's where I've played most recently) that I won't be able to play league vb at all. I think he resents my friend mainly because she divorced one of his good friends a few years ago. My husband and I both agree that it ended up being for the best for both of them, but he always hated her for it and this just gave him another opportunity to get a dig in at her.

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