Just so tired....
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Just so tired....
| Sat, 04-29-2006 - 7:18pm |
I was about to leave my husband of 6 yrs, after finding so much porn on the computer it was slowing it down, and a "love friendship note" he had sent to someone, over the internet(I think its someone he works with). She's 23, We are in our mid-to late 40's. He carries a picture of her in his wallet. His justification for it, is that "she's like a daughter to him". I'm no fool. He totally ignores his one and only daughter he has. He had kicked me in the bed, because I was talking in my sleep,,twice, after the second time, I kicked him back and told him NEVER to do that to me again.(this happened about a year ago, he denies it of course) He thinks I used him and has told me so. He has thrown it up in my face, what he had done for me financially, before and after we were married.(I am disabled) All(my medical problems) of this he knew before he married me. I explained to him that I have a hard time doing housework ect. due to my health problems, all BEFORE we got married. Then finally after confronting him with this, he blows it all off like its nothing. Hasn't explained who the note was sent to. Just said he was "taking care of himself" about the porn. (we had already had problems about this before) I'm sorry, but I am still having problems with this. Forgot to tell ya ,we havent had sex in over 2 yrs. Everytime I try to bring up something, to talk, it ends up in a fight, because he gets so mad. I am very hurt by all of this, and am having a hard time trusting him. I am very depressed, and other than getting mad when I want to talk about it, he is making an effort...I just sometimes feel like, I don't want to make the effort right now, and I don't know why? Does that make sense? sweet_mulberry

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If a divorce is what you want, start doing some research, find out what you can about services, funding, spousal support, etc. Check out the iVillage Health Channel to see if you can find others who have suggestions or information on divorcing and getting what you need: Workers' Comp & SSDI Support The Health Channel has a whole section of boards for specific chronic health conditions, you'll likely find some help there:
Health Channel Board Central There are also legal aid avenues you can look into, every state has them.
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