Lee and Joannaran - your responses?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Lee and Joannaran - your responses?
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Tue, 05-06-2003 - 1:10am
I was surprised at your responses to Lol_des "Oppinions needed" http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcouplescou&msg=6572.1

At my request, she gave more information on her post: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcouplescou&msg=6572.6 and your posts seem to be in response to that. I saw real cause for concern based on the situation she described, but was surprised that you two didn't seem to pick it up. I'm wondering if you'd take a look at my response (and her more info if you haven't seen it already) and tell me what you think, do we just disagree?

cl-2nd_life








"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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Registered: 07-27-2000
Tue, 05-06-2003 - 3:43am
Actually, I've tried to post twice to her last one, but my posts won't stick. I'll try ONE more time and then give it up! I didn't pick on quite as much danger as you did, but if you did, I'm glad you told her so. What I've tried to say twice today now is after her second post, everything in the first one was exaggerated to a point where I think she needs to accept this guy has blown trust between them now. I won't blast him for looking at porn, but I've looked at some of it myself and nowhere have I seen tips on being a better lover. What you find is the pictures just get more and more graphic, not more and more helpful for tips. If he can't be honest about that, what else is he lying about or has already lied about? I can't say enough times, people just don't get that - once you lie, it's always THERE, the lie, it's just there. Who knows why he really sacked the girl, who really cares, at this point? An emotional affair can be just as damaging as a physical one to lots of people. And I agree with the poster 100%, enough of this double standard garbage. Do not repeat his rotten behavior, that won't solve a thing since your standards are obviously higher than his, you wanna lower yourself to his? No way. This doesn't sound like a case of a guy screwing up, this sounds like a guy who just has different morals altogether. It can't work.

 


~~joannaran~~

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Registered: 07-27-2000
Tue, 05-06-2003 - 3:44am
Yesssss, it took!!!

 


~~joannaran~~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-06-2003 - 6:34am
My answer is about the same as Joannaran's. I picked up less danger and more exaggeration in both of her posts. And, like J, I'm glad you responded to the clues for controlling behavior that I now see more clearly. Her last post indicates she's not a likely victim, which encourages me.

By the way, there have been 4 or 5 responses of mine that haven't "stuck." Can't remember which ones.

Lee