Live in boyfriend irritates me to no end

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Live in boyfriend irritates me to no end
Fri, 05-20-2011 - 7:10pm
Not happy - my live in boyfriend of almost 4 years is really getting on my last nerve. He leaves work early and goes to the topless bars. He comes home smelling like a stripper wanting to grope me and calls me crabby when I'm not into his drunk #@@. Then he tells me he should find an apartment. When he is sober he doesn't get on my nerves I actually love home but when he gets drunk I can't wait until he goes to bed and passes out. this is not a life for me. How do I deal
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2011
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 2:58pm

As difficult as it may be, you need to encourage him to move out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 1:32pm

Find a new place to live and a new boyfriend

This isn't the last man on earth, you know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2011
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 8:58pm

"Then he tells me he should find an apartment."

Your reply should be very matter of factly, "I agree. I'm glad we agree on that. I've been thinking about this for a long time. I would like you to move out within two weeks max."

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 10:11am

You actually know what to do, but you want us to tell you something else.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2001
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 3:27am

Welcome to the board, Overreacting ~

You are most certainly not overreacting....underreacting probably, but not overreacting!

Some questions:

How often does this happen?

~ cl-2nd_life

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 2:21am