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| Thu, 11-03-2005 - 11:21pm |
Hello. I am new here and I am looking for some answers. I have been married for five years. We have an ok marriage but my husband is very bossy. Everything has to be done a certain way, his way. Even the simplest things, like him waiting on the coach while I tuck my daughter in and if I come out in my panties and t-shirt he would be upset because knowing that we were about to have sex, he wants me to have no panties on, he would be so mad that he would freak out and just watch tv. I never noticed his bossyness but lately he has really been bad. Also the other day I got my hair cut and when he pick me up he did not like it and would not talk to me in the car. No he did say something, he said it looked stupid and I did it to make him mad and then he wouldn't talk to to me for two days. He laughed at me and said I looked stupid. He is a good provider and good to my daughter and can be a good person deep down inside but this one thing seems to be a problem lately. He is always pissed off at me. I don't know what to do.

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I am sorry I have told little about me. My name is Jade and I live in the Southeast part of the US.We lived in Bangkok and my parents moved us to the Us so I could go to American schools. I met my husband in a sweet way.I was going to my parents house for supper and got a flat tire on my scooter.My husband stopped to help me he loaded my scooter in his truck and drove me to a tire store .I did not have enough money so he paid for it . When it was fixed I told him I would pay him back and he said no a date would be better.When ever we were together he always made me feel safe he is very big strong man. Over time we dated and in time I took him to meet my parents. Father liked him said hard working man and my mom thought he was funny.I have a sisterI said i can not talk to my family about this but my sister I can she listens to me like a big sister does.I know my husband loves me .When he goes fishing he lets me come he says its good to do things together . As he goes back out to fish I stay to dig for more worms and clean the fish that he cought.Plus he teases me and says he is happy when I come someone needs to put there hand in the ice water to get him another beer.I felt that things were going wrong but I did not know what He loves our daughter he is her soccer coach. Yes I still have my scooter the same one as I met him.He taught me how to change the oil in them and told me if I keep the oil changed I will have it forever.CL-2nd you confuss me you asked if I believe in what he doing is ok and right why have I posted here.I reread my messeges and I did not post that. Please explain.I think I now know what has been not right lately . Just like you are doing when I share my feelings I am made to feel stupid .I am cofused .
Edited 11/7/2005 2:58 pm ET by mepissoffu
Edited 11/7/2005 3:04 pm ET by mepissoffu
What I wanted was for you to think about what kind of life you want to have, what you thought a marriage should be like. I understand that your husband is nice, kind and loving sometimes, all abusers are, but if you read the links I provided for you, you know that. I suggest you keep reading the links and all the other information on the Domestic Abuse Board’s Homepage and post, read, or just read the posts on the Dealing With Domestic Abuse board. Most of all, I'd like you to take the information you have and use it to decide what you think is right, what you think is right for you.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown

my signature exchange partner:"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Jade, in an earlier post you said that you were Chinese. But in this post you said that you were originally from Bangkok. Bangkok is in Thailand.
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