Love languages off track?
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|Tue, 07-23-2013 - 3:53pm|
I've been reading about the five love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, & physical touch) and I'm starting to feel that my boyfriend and I are mismatched when it comes to these love languages. I'd like advice on how to approach this subject with my boyfriend and explain what I need and understand what he needs. The problem is that we don't get much alone time due to the fact that he has a 15 year old son at home and who is constantly being brought along on our "dates." I feel one of my love languages is quality time and we don't seem to get much of that!
My boyfriend is CONSTANTLY giving me compliments. He texts me at least 5 times a day telling me how beautiful I am, how lucky he is to have met me, ect. At the beginning of our relationship this was a wonderful, new experience for me (didn't have it in past relationships), however, as time as gone on it now seems a little ridiculous. Sometimes he'll text me saying, "he knew it....I don't like him as much as he likes me, or I don't think of him as much as he thinks about me." To me this seems like emotional bullying and I don't appreciate it!
If he puts his hand on my knee and I move to get comfortable or he tries to hold my hand but I pull away to get something out of my eye he acts totally offended and says things like, "sorry I didn't mean to bother you!" This past weekend, we were antiquing in a very hot and crowded building. He kept coming up behind me, pulling up my sweaty hair and kissing me on the neck....gross! That was the last thing I wanted! What I really wanted was to be left alone and an ice cold glass of water!
I'm assuming since he gives me compliments that his love language is words of affirmation &physical touch and I am on board in trying to give him more of that but I need to be able to express what my love languages are too.
Anyone else experience this or want to offer advice on how to approach the subject?