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Marriage Counseling Questions
| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 11:22am |
My husband and I are going to a counselor to save our marriage. What types of questions will be asked the first few times? Do we go together each time? My H is not being honest with me and I am guessing he will not be truthful there, either. How will this be dealt with? Any advice will be appreiciated. Thanks.

Some counselors will meet with one spouse first, then the other the next visit, and combine on the 3rd visit. That way they can get background info from each spouse before meeting together, and get POV unfettered. Some counselors meet all together each time. They usually start by asking what you all think the problem is, why you're there, etc. They tend to guide you through discussions instead of picking a discussion for you. A lot of times, as long as things are going well in the discussion, they won't interfere at all. Sometimes they may insert small questions to get you to think about something differently.
It's all up to the counselor you see.
If you know your H is lying to you and you think he will lie to the counselor, what good do you think marriage counseling is going to do? Though I agree at this point that counseling can't hurt and could very well help YOU out.
Jen
Welcome to the board, Isufan89 ~
Here's an article that should answer a lot of your questions:
What to Expect in Your 1st Therapy Appt.
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
cuple of thoughts...
If he doesn't want to do this then it will not help. Maybe once he gets into it he will get on board, but beware cause you will be wasting time and money if he does not get on board.
Assuming you get a decent counselor, they will figure out things like someone is chronically lieing...the one caveat is that it takes a little time. Remember while you are living this nightmare, they only met you and they start from a position of believing what both of you are saying until they have more time with you to assess "truth." This may cause you to feel frustrated early on...try to be patient.
Try to talk about how you feel in certain situations and avoid blaming...the blaming can create defensiveness, then counter attacking, and get you off track.
Good luck, P.