"Marriage Fitness"?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
"Marriage Fitness"?
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Thu, 09-16-2010 - 12:14pm

Has anyone tried this program, and did it work for you??



http://www.marriagemax.com/audio-program.asp


~Jodi



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Registered: 06-24-2008
Thu, 09-16-2010 - 11:03pm

This is the first line when you click on the link is: "Did you know that over 75% of people that go to marriage counseling report that they're WORSE off or divorced less than a year later?"

That's a flat out lie. First, he does not site any source for that I can find. Second, there was a large study that found marriage counseling was not as effective of other areas of counseling, but then they went back and discovered why. The reason was that not all counselors are properly trained to do this kind of work. Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs) are trained, and marriage therapy with licensed MFT has been shown to be highly effective.

I read some of his advice, and my guess is that his services may help. He has some decent ideas. But he's basing this on the idea that marriage counseling won't work and that's just wrong. He's offering counseling services, but HE himself is not trained in marital therapy. He does phone therapy, and sells really expensive tapes. And he's not trained or licensed to do this work. I think that's a big problem. I'd rather see a couple go to a licensed, trained, marriage therapist over using any services offered by an unlicensed person. There's something not right about someone who declares himself a "world authority on the psychology of relationships" without any advanced degrees or certifications in that field.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-16-2010 - 11:52pm
Welcome to the board,Shugercube ~

What kind of problems are you and your husband having? We'd be happy to listen and offer our thoughts and suggestions.





















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does not change the facts"

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 11:46am
My ex wanted me to try that program. This was after I had already kicked him out and ended the marriage. I refused. I think the poster above makes a great point. He's catering to those that are desperate and feel the need for a quick fix.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 11:18am
We are having HUGE problems, and I think it is time to give up, but I don't want to. He basically came home one day and said he didn't love me anymore, that the only reason he was still with me was because we have children together. We started counseling with our pastor, but that only seemed to make things worse. My husband also came out and said that he wasn't physically attracted to me anymore, that being near me made him nauseous, and that he'd been "faking" his attraction to me for several years. I have felt since we've been married that something wasn't right between us, that he wasn't as affectionate as he once was, but I attributed it to the 'honeymoon being over.' I just don't know what to do. I feel that even though we're going to counseling, he's already made up his mind, and is 'trying' just to be able to say he tried, but isn't really investing himself into the relationship at all. I don't want to stay in a relationship where I feel lonely and unloved, but then I look at everything that would be involved in a divorce, and it just plain scares me. I am a SAHM, have no income, no savings, nowhere to go. We just moved to a place where I know no one, and have no friends or family I can lean on for support right now. Everything is mixed together- cars are in both names, only joint accounts, etc. Trying to sort all that out and managing to pay for all the legal fees, not to mention having to be separated for a full year, all seems harder than
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