Me vs The World
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|Tue, 09-13-2011 - 1:02pm|
Hi everyone. I'm newly wed to my husband who I have been with for 4 years, and we have a baby on the way. For the most part I can consider myself happy, but there is one issue that still bothers me to no end.
My DH is a martial arts instructor, he's a very sweet man who loves working with these kids and he is darn good at it. I am also an instructor, but I don't work there. I drift in and out to teach sometimes to get a little bit of money, but I mostly stay home to take care of my animals and house.
Now, here is the problem. I have NOTHING against divorced couples, but majority of the parents that bring their kids to the school are single, middle-aged, and on the hunt. DH keeps everything professional, there are only a few parents we have become really close friends with, but they are married or actually respect the boundaries that are set when dealing with a married man. Others tend to not care, and I don't understand! I have these single parents calling and texting DH and always flirting with him. When he first began working there, one of them would always call and text him to invite him somewhere with her and her son and he would have to ask 'Can my fiance (at the time) come too?' and she would be like 'oh...yeah.' Not to mention most of these single parents are spreading rumors about DH cheating on me with one of the other female instructors. DH thinks nothing of this! He doesn't like the rumors, but he is convinced the parents aren't flirting with him!
DH has cheated on me (emotionally) in the past, but we were young and going through a hard time. It's hard to forget, but I forgave him. The girl he was accused of cheating on me with this time called me crying saying she swore she would never do that and that she loves me and my DH and she would never do that to our relationship or her own.
I believe her in, but now I wonder why these single parents are trying to tear my marriage apart. Do they think if they end my marriage, they have a shot with DH? There is also speculation that the rumors are being fueled by his boss and his boss's 19 year old g/f who is also an instructor and my ex-best friend (who I accidently trusted with secrets). They can't seem to keep our business out of their mouths!
It's very confusing guys, I tried to word everything so it would make sense. But it's so hard when you have so many different situations out to affected your marriaged. I have never done anything to these people. I was always kind and considerate. In fact, I was suppose to have the 19 year old girl's job, but I gave it to her because she got kicked out of her home. I'm a saint, but right now, I feel like the devil in me needs to come out. Any advice on what my next steps should be would be wonderful. I don't want to leave him over something like this just to be selfish to my own happiness.