This might be long but I desperately need advice!

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Registered: 05-26-2004
This might be long but I desperately need advice!
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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 8:53pm

Wow.. I thought I would never be on this type of forum looking for advice but here it goes:

DH and I have been together for 20 years and have 3 kids.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

In one way I can see your DH's point on the money--if you ask him to turn over his paycheck so that you can manage all the money, he has no input into anything, then you are the one who made all the decisions to get the family into a huge debt.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2005
It sounds like you're both blaming each other for your financial problems instead of working together to overcome them. I'm not sure how splitting up will solve that - if he never paid his bills on time, do you really expect him to pay his child support on time? You'll still both be struggling financially and blaming each other.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
I'm curious as to why you had 2 more babies when you were "just getting by" financially with having only 1 child?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2004

Really??

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Because you stated in your first post that your husband has never earned enough, and yet you (plural) continued to add to his ongoing financial struggles. Since having a child is not accidental, peaceyma wondered why you made that decision. I wondered the same thing.
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001

Welcome to the board, Kmotto2002 ~

I notice you posted on the "Should I Stay or Go" board about this issue as well.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001

From your post on the Stay or Go board, it sounds like there is no relationship.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 10:07am

It's been like this ever since our last child was born (and he'll be 12 in March).

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 11:25am

Then I think the first order of business here is for you to find a job and/or get some training that will help you be back in the job market.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 12:18am

I think your first order of business is to see a lawyer (the first visit is considered a consultation, which will be at a lower or no-fee, so that you can learn what your options are, what you can expect, etc.


~ cl-2nd_life

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