Minor issue in the skew of these boards, but important to me
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|Tue, 05-27-2014 - 8:15pm|
Help me to get over a disrecpect, distrust, bad judgement call from my husband.
Our second marriage (10 years) 6 kids between us and LOTS of ups and downs with the exes, kids, parents, etc. Bottom line is our marriage is good but there is one sore spot... his 24 year old son. He walks on water to my husband. Can do no wrong and growing up, was a HUGE sore spot for me and my kids. We weathered the storm for 11 years, but still the kid can push the buttons. Step Son visits for a week. We blew through $1200 taking him places, flying him here, feeding him and entertaining him (and his buddy). SS was supposed to be here to visit the hubby but can't come alone so it always is a costly visit. We live paycheck to paycheck and have the last two kids at home.
SS decides he wants a tattoo. Not just any tattoo... a LARGE ONE. Not only did he get it, but he talked my husband into getting matching ones. I am DEAD SET AGAINS ANY TATTOO's or PIERCING ON MY KIDS. Hubby knows my strong conviction and conservtive upbringing. He comes home with SS with matching LARGE tattoo's in everyday public place (his calf on his leg. All I did was cry. Hubby tells me it is his body to do what he wants. (which I guess is true) but you have to understand,,, we are a "We" we NEVER fight (unless his kid is getting 110% and mine is getting 30%). I have taken the stand that if this tattoo was there when we met, it was a deal breaker and I would not consider a relationship. Hence, this new tattoo needs to be removed. Well the grand total os $5200 for treatments to remove... which we don't have available,
I have sence found out family friends and neighbors have known of the tattoo plan for weeks. He kept it from me until the deed was done and that it could not be taken back. Please someone tell me something to put it in perspective for me to get over. Seems like he has hit his mid life crisis. Wants an earing like the son, tattoo like the son and now has started smoking a pipe. I am a Respiratory Therapist with a mother fighting lung cancer and he knows how I feel about smoking... but it is his body he says. WOW.
I realize my issues are so small considering the other posts that are here, but this is huge to me. Can anyone get thru to me to make it better?