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Missing phone calls??
| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 10:25am |
Hi,
I am new to the board and have a small issue with my bf. We have been talking on the phone everyday since we met back in mid January. This past Friday, he didn't call. I called him but he wasn't there. He told me he went out. This was the first time it had happened until last night. It happened again, no call from him. I called him but there was no answer. I went by his house and he was there - lights were on all over his house. He always tells me when he has plans so I am used to knowing where he is and what he's doing and when he's doing it. I do understand that men need their space and I don't want to crowd him. I didn't ask him what happened after the first time. I let him bring it up on his own. Now it has happened again and I'm unsure of how to handle it. Am I taking these two no-calls too seriously? Should I worry about bringing it up this time since it has happened now twice in the same week?
Edited 4/5/2006 10:26 am ET by fashionj2002
I am new to the board and have a small issue with my bf. We have been talking on the phone everyday since we met back in mid January. This past Friday, he didn't call. I called him but he wasn't there. He told me he went out. This was the first time it had happened until last night. It happened again, no call from him. I called him but there was no answer. I went by his house and he was there - lights were on all over his house. He always tells me when he has plans so I am used to knowing where he is and what he's doing and when he's doing it. I do understand that men need their space and I don't want to crowd him. I didn't ask him what happened after the first time. I let him bring it up on his own. Now it has happened again and I'm unsure of how to handle it. Am I taking these two no-calls too seriously? Should I worry about bringing it up this time since it has happened now twice in the same week?
Edited 4/5/2006 10:26 am ET by fashionj2002

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"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I guess what you know is that if he doesn't feel like talking when the phone rings he won't pick it up.
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
If I get a call from a number I don't recognize, I don't pick up, and I won't respond to the call unless the person leaves me a voicemail. Is it possible that's what happened with your new number? I think a lot of people do that (screen numbers they don't know).
I don't know...it strikes me as a little odd that you keep driving over there and checking up on him. Why do you feel the need to do that?
Sheri
Good point on not picking up calls you don't recognize, I do that too.
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
Why not just stop by. Apologize for showing up announced, tell him you tried to call first, let him know your number has changed and if he doesn't invite you to stay or show any other interest in spending time with you, there is nothing left to wonder about. As rude and inconsiderate as it may be, there is a possibility that he is moving on.
If he does offer another weak explanation for why he didn't answer then, I personally, would consider whether or not I would want to continue the little game of tag you all seem to be playing.
Peace,
Di
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