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| Sun, 06-25-2006 - 7:46pm |
I started a post last week regarding the relationship between my mother and my husband as well as my feelings on my marriage. I needed to add this and see what everyone thought.
Tomorrow my niece is graduating college and there is a family dinner at a restaurant in the evening. My husband informed me that he will not be coming along, that is not a phony and doesn't want to come. He said "everyone" doesn't like him so why should he put himself through that. I said "don't include my sisters in how my mother feels" and his answer was "oh come on, it's obvious they don't like me". Now yesterday I went to a birthday party on his side and it was actually in the car on the way there that he told me he was not coming. Now at this late moment I have to give my sister some excuse as to why he is not coming. I feel that he should come for me, out of respect that I am his wife, but he does not feel that way. I am so angry at myself for going to his family party yesterday, when we were the "only" family members to show up. The rest were neighbors because the rest of the family "was either busy or working or too tired from the night before". When I tell him this he says no one in my family treats you bad. Bad, no. They don't treat you at all. You never hear from them, most of them don't show up at our children's parties either. Birthdays and Christmas come and goes without a call or a card. SO my questin is, do you think he should come or do you think he is justied in not coming?
Tomorrow my niece is graduating college and there is a family dinner at a restaurant in the evening. My husband informed me that he will not be coming along, that is not a phony and doesn't want to come. He said "everyone" doesn't like him so why should he put himself through that. I said "don't include my sisters in how my mother feels" and his answer was "oh come on, it's obvious they don't like me". Now yesterday I went to a birthday party on his side and it was actually in the car on the way there that he told me he was not coming. Now at this late moment I have to give my sister some excuse as to why he is not coming. I feel that he should come for me, out of respect that I am his wife, but he does not feel that way. I am so angry at myself for going to his family party yesterday, when we were the "only" family members to show up. The rest were neighbors because the rest of the family "was either busy or working or too tired from the night before". When I tell him this he says no one in my family treats you bad. Bad, no. They don't treat you at all. You never hear from them, most of them don't show up at our children's parties either. Birthdays and Christmas come and goes without a call or a card. SO my questin is, do you think he should come or do you think he is justied in not coming?

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Tessy, have you considered seeing a counselor to help you sort all this out?
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I am in the process of narrowing it down. I want to get the right
therapist. I will probably be making an appointment within the
next week.
Good for you! Let us know how that goes!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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