Move it or lose it??
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Move it or lose it??
| Mon, 05-15-2006 - 11:34pm |
Recently my husband started his own business which now has become his home. We currently live out in the country in a small home with lots of acreage. Its quiet and private but I really would like to move closer to town in a larger home which is also closer to my job and his business. If we sold our current property we would have enough to pay off his business loan and the mortgages we have plus have enough left to put a nice down payment on a larger home. Without all the bills and the extra up keep of our current property our lifes would be soooo much easier and we would have more time to spend with our son. But no matter how much I try to reason with dh, he won't move!!! He refuses!!! He has decided that he doesn't want to move and so therefore we aren't!!! I need some help here, please help me sort this out. Who is being selfish?? Me for wanting to move and make our lifes easier or he who wants to keep things the way they are. Some advice would be good. This is really becoming an issue for me.

Welcome to the board, Julesinthecity ~
From what you've said, your reasons sound completely logical and positive, but we haven't heard his reasons for wanting to stay, have you? Or has he simply stated you're not moving and given you no reasons? Is this typical reaction for him in a situation where you've *decided* what you want and what you think is best for you? Have you sat down together and listed out the pros and cons of staying/moving? In other words, we need a little more info!
I'll be checking back for your response ~
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
julesinthecity,
Hi there, I agree with cl-2nd_life that we need alittle more info as to why your DH is taking the stance that he is and if this is common for him.
One thing I was a bit confused on though....your title to the post. Does it mean that you either move or end your marriage?? *IF that is the case in your head I acutally have to be a bit frank here and say you are acting just like your DH. If he's saying "we're not moving and that's it" and you're saying "we're moving or I'm leaving" then you are BOTH not compromising. You're faulting him for something that you are doing too. So please clarify on that for me too. :)
One thing I can comment on without asking a question first....well actually there is a question, but I don't need info before I ask it. You mentioned you would like to spend more time with your son. Does your DH's business make enough to support your family so that maybe you wouldn't have to work?? In being a SAHM you could spend the more time with your son, which would probably make you a more happy person, which would lead into a more happy wife, which would lead into a more happy marriage. I know that I'm going to get tackled by saying this and call me old-fashioned, but if there would be a chance that DH could make enough so I didn't have to work I would love it. Especially with my horses and living out in the country. But that's just me. :)
I'll check back for your answers.
Best of luck,
defleppardgal
Defleppardgal