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| Mon, 01-02-2006 - 3:11am |
I'm sorry for my disappearance this past week, I had an unexpected family issue that required my full attention. As those of you that know much about my history know, my son, has been faced with issues no kid should be faced with. He's does a good job of suppressing his issues, but we all know until you deal with them they don't go away. He's maintained that he's "fine" for quite a while, but he "blew apart" this week. While a meltdown isn't good, the fact that he's now agreeable to see a therapist is a very good thing. I'd much rather have him clear up his problems than struggle with them forever, and much rather have him take care of that as early in his life as he can.
Phew! And I thought the holidays were stressful! I'll be back tomorrow!
"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown


Glad to hear from you. I was starting to worry.....
look after yourself and your family before worrying about us :-)
Thanks, Aisha. Believe me, during this last week, getting on the computer didn't cross my mind -- and when I was physically available to get on the board, I was totally emotionally unavailable!
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I hope that all is going better with your son. (Better being relative anyway...) And I hope that you get some down time...even if it's just to breathe.
Jen
Thanks Jen. The funny thing is (ha ha) that I took the week after Christmas off from work to be home with the kids, kick back and relax. I got absolutely nothing that I'd planned done (and I'd planned to take it easy and relax) and ended up way more stressed out than I even thought of being at the beginning of the holiday. So much for R & R ~ lol!
The good news is that therapy will be a good thing for him. I've known all along that he's "not done" in therapy, but he's assured me whenever I check in that he's "just fine" and has no need or desire to go. I expected that he'd float through until he had a melt down based on his circumstances touched some old chords (like when he becomes a father --- Yeeears from now if I have anything to say about it!) and would end up back in therapy then. Much as I wish we weren't going through what we we are now, it's worth it if the result is getting himself more healed and healthy in therapy. I'd much rather he deal with it and resolve it now than carry it with him into adulthood.
His first session is tomorrow night, so I'll be here later than usual as I have to go with him to do the paperwork end.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I hope your son get's what he needs in therapy.
Thanks, Jennie; I hope so too. What you're saying about layers makes sense when you consider that you're not emotionally equipped to deal with - let alone - understand many issues before adulthood, you work on what you're equipped to deal with and leave the rest for another stage in development.
Interesting what you said about layers, this will be my son's third "round" in counseling. He went for a while after his father dropped out of his life, again a year or so later when it became an urgent matter for him to have his father in his life (the man was ignoring his calls and letters all the while living less than five minutes away -- what a guy). During that round of counseling the therapist recommended stopping therapy when, as she said, continuing to focus on the issue would do more harm than good. He must have gotten through all the layers he was able at that age. I've known all along that he still has plenty of issues to work through, but he's insisted he's *fine* and that more visits to his therapist weren't necessary. I'm hoping that the groundwork that's already been laid will help him make good progress. Three days after his issues surfaced he was back to *fine* according to him, and he appears to be *fine*, but that can't be. I'm glad that even though he's *fine* he's still willing to go through some therapy. Like I said before, I'd much rather he do the work now than later; even if he needs more down the road, the more he can get out of the way now the better.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"