Is my boyfriend becoming bored?
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|Mon, 07-30-2012 - 5:00pm|
Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together now for 4 years. He is 38 and I am 22. You may also need to know we run a business togther and he has a 14 year old from a previous marriage and we have a 9 month old together. We also run a business together and are around each other almost 24/7 which can be stressful at times.
Before I became pregnant are love manly sex life had gone down hill. There was not a whole lot of kissing, holding hands, sitting next to one another etc. I thought it was because of the stress at work and it would go away on its on as soon as we had it up and running. We didn't really have a chance before I became pregnany. It was a really difficulty pregnancy, I became extermly depressed thinking I had ruined my life being so young and getting pregnant. However, I had my son and I couldn't be happier. I wouldn't give him up for anything in the world! But it did put a lot of strain on our realtionship, me acting so crazy.
We got over it or so it seemed. Even now though, we still arnt lovey dovey and hardly ever have sex. I put it upon my self to fix the situation. I decided if I wanted sex I was going to have to be the one to initate it. So I started trying different things and fulfilling some of his "fantasies". He seems to never intiate it anymore even if I come to bed naked. I'm not trying to brag or anything but I look the same before I got pregnant, I am in great shape so I know its not that. When we do have sex it lasts a whole 5 sec and he dosn't ever want to go for round 2. Its like he just wants to get it over with and go to bed. When I asked him about it he says hes stressed and tired.
I dont know how much longer I can stay in a realtionship like this. I want someone to adore me as much as I adore them. Do you think hes just not interested anymore, hes old and he sex drive is lacking or maybe hes cheating on me. I dont know what the hell is going on. I am going to suggest therapy but when we attended while I was pregnant, we were hurt for 6 days afterwards then we went back the next week and were emotionally exausted for the next 6 days.