My boyfriend is mad because...
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My boyfriend is mad because...
| Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:34pm |
I haven't been very sexual with him lately. We usually have sex a lot and lately it's been days without it and he is frustrated. I'm 20 and I think I have a yeast infection and I read somewhere that I shouldn't have sex while I have one until I can get it cleared up. I don't currently have a doctor and gyno takes a long time to get into. I need to get rid of it now. Can I just got take Monistat or is it necessary to go to the gyno. My boyfriends mom gets them every now and then and told me she thinks I have the same thing. How do I tell my boyfriend I can't have sex with him because of a yeats infection?? He'll get all grossed out. I don't know right now he is mad at me and hasn't talked to me all day because he thinks I am not attracted to him. What can I do? Seeing a gyno with my work schedule is not possible right now.

I have to tell you, Curlyhairedcutie, there should be nothing you can't talk to a guy you're being intimate about. This is someone you're sharing your body with; if you're comfortable doing that, if you give him that much, talking about anything should be no problem at all. If you can't, you should be asking yourself why you can't.
As far as him being grossed out, too bad. If he's old enough to be having sex, he's old enough to deal with the realities of life, and yeast infections, periods, and more are things that happen.
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I know that they say you are supposed to go the doctor the first time you get a yeast infection so you can be sure that is what you've got. I also have to admit that I didn't do that my first time. I told my mom what I was experiencing, and she just told me that I had a yeast infection and gave me Monistat. It used to be that you needed to always get a prescription for it, but by the time I got my first yeast infection about 10 years ago, it was already being sold over the counter.
You are right that you shouldn't have sex with your boyfriend until it is cleared up. Guys can catch it from their sexual partners and have a yeast infection on their penis. I do think you should tell your boyfriend what is going on though so he isn't feeling rejected by you. It may sound gross to him, but if you are having sex with somebody, you need to be able to discuss these types of things.
You don't have to go see a gyno for it. I had one and just used a little over the counter cream and it cleared it up real fast. As for your boyfriend just tell him that you are having a "female" problem that way he dosen't get all grossed out and he should understand why you're not having sex with him. I hope this helps
What is a yeast infection?
Yeast is part of the normal "flora" of bacteria that exists in your body. When there is an overgrowth of this yeast, or "Candida", then you may experience health problems. Yeast infections can occur in the vagina, mouth and throat.
Symptoms
You may experience:
itching or burning around the vagina
thick, white vaginal discharge
burning while urinating
burning while having sex.
Causes
Yeast infections may be caused by:
antibiotics
birth control pills
steroids
pregnancy
obesity
diabetes
poor hygiene
Many women get yeast infections. HIV+ women may get them more often and they may be more difficult to treat. Infections can occur at any CD4+ count, but they may become more severe as your count drops.
Treatments
You can treat yeast infections with over-the-counter creams and suppositories called, "tropical treatments". These treatments are inserted into the vagina. They work in direct contact with the infection. You can also get a prescription for "systemic treatments" (pills or capsules), which work throughout the entire body.
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Yeast infections and HIV
Repeated yeast infections are a common first symptom of HIV. Reoccurring yeast infections and those that are hard to treat are signs of a weakening immune system. As CD4+ cell counts fall below 200, the risk of repeated yeast infections increases. The infection may also move to the mouth ("thrush) or esophagus.
If you experience recurring infections, they should be monitored along with your T-Cells and treated as much as possible.
Prevention
Common tips for preventing yeast infections:
Change your diet
Cut down on sugars and starchy foods
Eat "natural" yogurts containing lactobacillus acidopholus
Take acidophilus capsules (available in health food stores
Consult a nutritionist to determine the best diet for you
Wear cotton underwear - Cotton fabric lets air in and doesn't trap moisture)
Use non-soap cleansers - Soap can dry the skin and increase irritation (Natural cleansers can be found at health food stores)
Avoid scented laundry soaps (May contain chemicals that make the infection worse)
Fabric softeners can block moisture absorption
Avoid wearing tight clothes - Tight clothes can block air flow)
Avoid douching as it:
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
Edited 9/4/2006 6:27 pm ET by cl-2nd_life
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"