My Boyfriend is Way too Messy
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|Sat, 02-18-2012 - 12:41pm|
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. We've lived together for 2 of them. The past year I have been working jobs that require me to live on site during the week, but I can go home on the weekends. My boyfriend has always been a little messy, but I feel like it has gotten way worse. I am embarrassed to have people come over to the house. I'm not there all week and the place gets trashed, dishes in the sink, and when they don't fit in there, they are all over the kitchen counter. Clothes left all over the floor in every room. Glasses and plates left everywhere. It's terrible. I use to come home and clean, but last weekend I refused to - I didn't make ANY of the mess. He seemed ok with it, and said he would clean, but when I came home this weekend, he still hadn't done anything. He says that his work is stressful - which I know it is, and that he just works and then goes to work out. he works 8-9 hours a day, but there is time to clean, even like a 1/2 hour. I want to talk to him, lay down the law, and say that I won't put up with this anymore.
I feel like saying,"I will not come home on the weekends if the place is such a mess." - which is how I feel, but I know that this will lead to a huge blow up, and I really don't want to start that. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me on how to approach this situation. I love my boyfriend, but his laziness is driving me crazy. This weekend I have a friend crashing at our place, so I sucked it up and have just cleaned the place - well everywhere but the bedroom. I feel like leaving it this clean gives me leverage to talk to him about keeping it clean. I just cannot find the right way to talk to him about it. Please help.