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|Fri, 09-14-2012 - 12:06am|
I met my SO 28 years ago, we were both kids. We dated then and have "hooked up" over the years, many times, never single at the same time. We have always remained friends, always called each other and anyone in our lives at the time knew about our friendship. Deep down he was always "the one that got away".
Well last Oct. I became single and he was the first person I called. I was not even done leaving him a voice mail before he was calling me back. We have been together since. I knew he was falling for me and by February he stared into my eyes and said, I know we are both feeling the same thing, it's just too soon to say it isn't it? Eventually he said "I love you" as did I and we have been very happy since.
The one thing I NEVER knew about him is that he was taught a man does mans work and a woman's place is in the kitchen, cleaning etc...I about died when I looked around one day and asked why he didn't dust once in a while and he stated, that is women's work!! I have never been in a relationship like this. I did help him rearrange a room, he moved the furniture, I dusted and vacuumed, but it is so weird to me!! (Oh and his mother lives with him, is usually gone during the cold month-yet another weird thing for me being in our 40's). Since she has returned he has his dinner fixed for him PROMPTLY at the time he has requested, I find it so crazy! I mean I generally would have dinner ready around the same time but he literally eats at the exact same time every night!!
After my divorce I had to move and he tossed out the idea that us living together so soon would be a bad idea, "wouldn't it"? I told him yes, as we both have a history of moving in with someone way too fast. He has had several live-ins, several (which is why I hate being at his house--stupid right?!!) My lease will be up in May and everyone around me is saying "you guys will be living together as soon as your lease is up" but I can't imagine putting up with his "schedule" and his "OCD"(which is way worse than mine). We will be out and about and he always points out homes, asking if I like them, throwing around the idea of moving to a new house etc... I love this man with my whole heart and soul and since we were kids, we have always wanted to be in a relationship. Now that we have it, I am freaked out more than I have ever been in my life. What the heck is going on with me?!
I am a pretty easy going, laid back, fun person--we both are..and now I am scared and freaking out about things that would not normally bother me! I sometimes wonder if me knowing his entire history has anything to do with it (he has been single and LOVED to mingle for over 20 years)