Is my thinking out of line?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2012
Is my thinking out of line?
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Sat, 03-03-2012 - 2:15pm

Hello all,

I have something on my mind that has been bothering me for some time now.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 2:43pm

When under stress we do look for a rescue.

dragowoman

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 3:41pm

Ann, I honestly think the finances are the least of your problems.

He hasn't come to see you since November because of ticket costs, but can afford other expensive things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2012
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 4:03pm
Thanks for your reply. I am under a lot of stress to be sure!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2012
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 4:16pm
You're right. I probably know this deep down. I mean, I'm not worth 200 extra dollars? If I thought the finances were the problem, I would understand completely. However, I know they are not. :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 7:30am

It is out of line to an extent. You are expecting him to pool in while he doesnt believe he has to. It would be nice if he did but he isnt obliged to , in his opinion. The point is why .

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 9:45am

I agree with the others and it sounds like he has put you on the back burner for some reason.. sorry to say but you are not a priority anymore since you havent seen him since last November?? That is a long time and do you think he could be seeing someone else?
I personally believe that long distance relationships do not work and if its been five years for both of you going back and forth then if you two still want to be together then one of you has to move asap.. Maybe he got tired of it all and since your income went down and you cant go to him he resents that.. I would dig deep into this before getting married ...

Like the others I wouldnt focus too much on the money part but I would be hurt also if I were you and would expect someone I love to send me a plane ticket if they could afford it..

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 12:27pm

Hi I am wondering what was the boundaries in the beginning?

dragowoman