Need advice

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Need advice
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Tue, 03-01-2011 - 2:44am
Hi I'm Sarah, I'm in my mid 20s and have been in a happy relationship with my boyfriend for three years. We have a healthy sex life, but over the past few months, since just before Xmas, I find that I've been having a lot of erotic thoughts (even when I'm at work). As a result ive been masturbating on average about two or three times a day. It's even got to the point when I do in the secretly in bed next to my boyfriend when he's asleep.

Is this normal?

Id be happy for more sex, but it kind of ruins the fantasy and I find it easier to orgasm myself.

Do u think this could ruin our relationship? Because I don't want to let him go,
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Registered: 05-14-2001
In reply to: sarahw
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 3:00am

Welcome to the board, Sarahw ~

Masturbating three times a day seem pretty excessive.


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Registered: 03-01-2011
In reply to: sarahw
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 3:17am
Before Xmas I only masturbated about once or twice a week and we had sex about twice a week. I dont masterbate 2/3 times EVERY day, just on average.

We still have regular sex but I just keep getting the urge to be alone to masterbate. This is driving me crazy - am I going mad?? When I fantasise it's about no one in particular just the thought or being touched made live to etc.

It's making me miserable that there's this part of my life that I can't control
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Registered: 12-03-2009
In reply to: sarahw
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 8:31am

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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: sarahw
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 8:34am

Hmm, are you on any new medications?

I wouldn't say that this will ruin your relationship at all, since the problem is not with your relationship itself. Everyone needs "alone time" sometimes... The reality of sex with someone else is that it's more work to also care about pleasing someone else. Three times a day is a lot, but if you made an effort to have more sex with your boyfriend, it might help curb the desire to be alone so often... Do you think he'd be up for that? I think it's worth a try.

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Registered: 03-01-2011
In reply to: sarahw
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 1:44pm
Thanks for the replies. Makes me feel less of a freak!
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Registered: 05-14-2001
In reply to: sarahw
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 12:29am

Hugs Sara ~ I vote with the others, go see your doctor and see if there isn't a medical reason for it.


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