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|Tue, 05-06-2003 - 10:25am|
i've been married for almost 3 years now, and we just had a baby a few months ago. i was really happy in the beginning, but ever since i've had the baby, i've been getting more and more unhappy. at first i thought it was post-partum, but i'm on medication and still feel this way. i still love my husband, but i'm just not happy with him. i find myself feeling like nothing we having is good enough anymore. we don't have much money....i make more than he does. i hate our house, it's a dump. i hate his family, they're nuts. i hate all the things in our house. i hate that i have to work, i wanted to stay him with my baby. my husband won't help me do anything. he works full-time, but so do i, and i'm just as tired when i get home from work. but i'm the one who has to get up with our baby in the middle of the night, get up with him when he wakes up very, very early in the morning, then work all day, then come home and wash the dishes, do the laundry, cook dinner, clean the house, give the baby a bath, make the baby's bottles for the next day, feed him, change him, put him in bed. my husband goes to work and then comes home and sits on his butt. it's like it doesn't even cross his mind to help out. i'd be happy to do it all and be a little housewife, IF i didn't have to work full-time as well. but since i do, it should be equal. i've told him this repeatedly. we've fought and made up about it with his promises to help out more and do better, but nothing ever changes. i'm also the one who has to take the trash out, go the grocery store, take our baby to every single doctor's appt., take care of all the bills and financial stuff, take the baby to and from the baby-sitter's every single day. my husband does nothing but go to work and come home, and sometimes go out with his friends. i'm tired of being the man in the relationship....I want to be taken care of for a change. it would be nice to be taken care of. i'm tired of being a married single-mother. any advice?