Need advice about parents separation

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Registered: 01-24-2005
Need advice about parents separation
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 9:47pm

Hello.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 12:15am

Welcome to the board, Trulyblessed. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Suicide is incredibly difficult, the affects are lasting and impact friends and family for the rest of their lives. I'm so sorry your family had to deal with that, I hope they've sought help and support through Compassionate Friends or other groups.


You're not going to like my answer very much, there really isn't anything you can do about this situation. Your parent's divorce, any further relationship and their actions are theirs, not yours; you don't have a place in it, it isn't yours to be involved in or try to solve. I hope they're not putting you in the middle of this, that would be wrong. If they are, you'll need to tell them that resolving issues between her parents isn't a daughter's place. As far as the questions you have about why your father did this and why he acts and thinks like he does now, he's the one to ask, and I think it's appropriate for you to ask him. I'm sure watching this is torturous for you, watching that go on between not just two people you love, but your parents would be difficult, to say the least. I'd involve myself as little as I could. If your mother doesn't want to accompany him, she'll have to tell him so. If he asks you to call her and invite her or ask her to join him (or the two of you) you can refuse - that situation involves you. Tell him you're not comfortable doing that, you don't feel that's appropriate due to their divorce, you don't want to put your mother in that position, whatever is the actual case. But as far as the two of them doing things together or him asking her on his own to accompany him, it's his choice and it's hers to respond.

Another board that might be helpful to you with this is:
Venting about Family & Friends








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Edited 2/25/2006 12:17 am ET by cl-2nd_life








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