Need advice. Sorry if it's a little long.

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Registered: 02-18-2011
Need advice. Sorry if it's a little long.
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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 1:58pm

I should start off by saying that I love love love my husband and 90% of the time we have no problems. When we do have a problem it is almost always about one thing, his "business partner". I use the quotations because my husband isn't really a partner but is told his is by the other person, I have my own theories about that one. But anyways, last fall his "partner"

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Sat, 02-19-2011 - 12:49am

Welcome to the board, Mommy2emma1st ~ I'm sorry you're dealing with this.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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My question: Is your husband too easy going and passive and lets everyone guide the way with everyone, or just this man?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 02-19-2011 - 11:28am
What are your issues with his co worker? I suspect that has a lot to do with your fears. I also find 2 men wanting to go on a cruise together without their spouses quite suspicious.
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Sat, 02-19-2011 - 12:23pm

First, thank you all for replying. I think I should start of by saying that I don't really fear my husband going on this cruise alone. While it is strange that two men are going on a cruise, he isn't the type to be unfaithful. Not that I can say the same for the other man, but I can say with 100% certainty that my husband wouldn't cheat. Yes, I would have liked to at least been invited, not that I would've gone. In regards to him working abroad for 6 months, to answer 2nd_lifes and everyone's question(s). He is 25 years old, and two of my husbands three jobs are working with this man, and the third job is a part time night job, which in terms of benefits, he does need to keep. Meaning if he does this he would lose that third job. NOT GOOD. When my husband isn't around this guy he is absolutely wonderful, not that he isn't when he's around, but everything does seem to revolve around this guy when he's present. He is defiantly an equal partner in regards to everything we do. He spends as much of his free time with us as he can, and at least to me seems to be very happy. But perhaps that is something I need to sit down and discuss with him. He is also, the type of guy who sits down and talks about things with me before making big decisions. My husband is not the kind of guy to let others make decisions for him, until it comes to this guy. It truly feels like if this man asked him to jump off a bridge he'd do it because, "he said it was the right thing to do". My many problems with this man have to do with his general attitude towards everything. I don't want to say that he's a racist, but he has made numerous inappropriate comments over the years about my husband and I's relationship(my husbands black, I'm white). He also doesn't seem to understand that family comes before work, or co workers. He became very upset with my husband in

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Registered: 05-14-2001

Thanks for your answers, Mommy2emma1st, they help ~

I have to say I'm surprised he'd jump at going away for six months if he's fully involved in the day-to-day care of your daughter and in your lives in general.


~ cl-2nd_life

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