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Need help on boyfriend issues!!
| Sun, 11-12-2006 - 3:14am |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for five years. Well, we did have a break inbetween when we first started off in college. Well he decided to ask me back out. This time around was much better than the first time. I guess it was the time apart, not too sure. We did see each other from time to time. We stayed friends. Or should I say he had to crawl back to me because he couldn't stand being away from me. Well, to tell you the truth we became what is known as "sex buddies". Anyhow, we are together and I was excited when he asked me again. This time around I had recieved a promise ring.
So, now since he is working at his second job full time and quit the other place, things have changed a bit. At first it was fine. Now since he took a different shift he has been different himself. We don't spend anytime together. He basically goes to work at 5:30am, comes home around 6:30pm sometimes 7pm or later. And then if he gets a fire call, bam, out the door he goes in a flash. Well what I am trying to get at here, is I never see him and it hurts, it frustrating. He never tries or so it seems. We got into a fight today over it again. I told him how I felt and he yelled at me. I told him to just go to bed because he was falling asleep anyhow and the fight progressed. Heck, we don't even have sex anymore. I want it, we talk about it through text but then he comes home and does his uasul routine. Eats, and then sleeps. When I go into the room to try and spend time together for a bit he comes into the living room and then a long time later he comes into the room gets ready for bed and then lies down. Within 2 minutes he is passed out. I then tell him bye and he goes where are you going. I tell him on the comp. And then that's when he assumes I am going to leave him for some guy. No I come on here because I am bored and have nothing better to do. I am not about to stay in the bedroom to talk to the wall. LOL. If you ask me that's not right or fun for that matter.
Well, I am so sorry that it is this long. I hope someone can help me onto what to think or what to say. It upsets me because I don't get to see him. Maybe some advice. I want it to work out with him. I love him and I am proud at what he does. I am in fear everyday but I love him to death. We even talk about marriage from time to time. But staying in a relationship with no contact is hard. We only talk time to time through text but it's not much. It's just the quick I love you or I miss you text.
So please someone help me!!!!!
Mandi
So, now since he is working at his second job full time and quit the other place, things have changed a bit. At first it was fine. Now since he took a different shift he has been different himself. We don't spend anytime together. He basically goes to work at 5:30am, comes home around 6:30pm sometimes 7pm or later. And then if he gets a fire call, bam, out the door he goes in a flash. Well what I am trying to get at here, is I never see him and it hurts, it frustrating. He never tries or so it seems. We got into a fight today over it again. I told him how I felt and he yelled at me. I told him to just go to bed because he was falling asleep anyhow and the fight progressed. Heck, we don't even have sex anymore. I want it, we talk about it through text but then he comes home and does his uasul routine. Eats, and then sleeps. When I go into the room to try and spend time together for a bit he comes into the living room and then a long time later he comes into the room gets ready for bed and then lies down. Within 2 minutes he is passed out. I then tell him bye and he goes where are you going. I tell him on the comp. And then that's when he assumes I am going to leave him for some guy. No I come on here because I am bored and have nothing better to do. I am not about to stay in the bedroom to talk to the wall. LOL. If you ask me that's not right or fun for that matter.
Well, I am so sorry that it is this long. I hope someone can help me onto what to think or what to say. It upsets me because I don't get to see him. Maybe some advice. I want it to work out with him. I love him and I am proud at what he does. I am in fear everyday but I love him to death. We even talk about marriage from time to time. But staying in a relationship with no contact is hard. We only talk time to time through text but it's not much. It's just the quick I love you or I miss you text.
So please someone help me!!!!!
Mandi


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Mandi
~*Mandi*~
I understand not liking negative stuff Mandi, but that doesn't stop the fact that negative stuff is very real part of life. I don't like posting responses that aren't positive and happy. But, I couldn't really feel good about myself if I said everything was going to be fine when that's not what I really think. Lying and saying everything's going to be okay isn't helping those who come here with real problems looking for real answers. You can find people who will tell you what you want to hear anywhere, the people who are valuable to you are the ones who are honest with you. Unless you face the negative stuff you can't deal with it and unless you deal with it, nothing will change, your life won't get happier, healthier and better. Nobody likes negative stuff, Mandi, but negatives are a reality, and reality has to be dealt with.
A board that may be better suited for you:
Relationships in Our 20s
Now I've said all I'm going to say ~ !
Best of luck.
~ cl-2nd_life"You can't control the length of your life,
but you can control the width and depth."
~ Author unknown
Edited 11/14/2006 10:01 pm ET by cl-2nd_life
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
You came here looking for advice, specifically "need(ing) help on boyfriend issues!!" not the other way around.
~*Mandi*~
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