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| Sat, 03-18-2006 - 2:38pm |
Hello,
if you saw your boyfriend/husband's collar with a straight half an inch line on his white shirt-would you automatically think it was lipstick? I saw that one night on my boyfriend's shirt and didn't know what to think because whatever it was--it appeared darker than what I use. The thing is--wouldn't it appear all smudgy(if smudgy means like a blot type of look to it) as opposed to a line and it wouldn't appear in more than one spot rather than just that line. He hasn't really given me any reason to believe he would mess around or cheat but i guess when i saw something like this--i freaked out. I even said to him you have a mark on your shirt and he said without looking its probably lipstick and then i said well its not mine and he said it has to be yours and it came out of the laundry today. I said something else about it and he said am i going to have to take it off and look. I kind of dropped it after that because I did not want to sound insecure or not believe him..but i know it wasn't my lipgloss. The only way that i let it go was that it wasn't all over the collar, it was more like a line. I just wanted some new opinions. I posted something similiar in another area. Thanks.

Isn't this something that happened months ago? You need to let it go. If you're not happy in the relationship, end it. If you are happy with him but are feeling insecure, you need to work on your insecurities. And obsessing over this is not going to help you in any way.
And, no, I would not automatically suspect that it's lipstick, because I would trust my boyfriend and not expect him to cheat on me.
Welcome to the board, Grl2121 ~
Based on the response from Ioveranalyze, it sounds like this is something that happened a while ago, is that correct? Or is this the second time this has happened? If this is about something that happened a while ago, has there been anything that gives you reason to suspect something is going on?
More questions before I can give you an answer:
You said he's never given you any reason to suspect cheating before, but does he have a history of cheating with girlfriends before you? If the answer is "no" and if he's not given you reason to suspect before or since this occurred, I'm wondering if you've ever been cheated on before or if there is anything else that's happened in your life that would make you sensitive to concerns in that area?
Let me know the answers and I'll be able to better answer your question ~ I'll be checking back for your response.
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