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| Sun, 07-02-2006 - 11:32pm |
Ok, I need some advice. My husband and I have been married for almost a year now. We couldn't afford much in terms of an engagement ring for me when we got married. Well, I would like a new one now and he is upset because he thinks that I think the first one "isn't good enough". That is honestly not the case. I thought we had an agreement that we would get me something a little nicer when we could afford to do so (and I remember talking about it).Should I just give up on getting a new ring or should I persist on the topic? I really don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't want to sound selfish, but I don't think I should have to wear the same ring my whole life when we can afford to get something else. Any advice would be helpful.

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You guys are really surprising me, I thought there'd be at least a few opposing viewpoints!
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
I've thought about getting a new engagement ring, but I just can't give up the one I currently have. Though I want something bigger, lol! So MY plan is just let H buy me new jewelry..... :)
If H agreed to it then it should be a non-issue. Or if he's changed how he feels then he needs to TALK about it and tell you why and have the two of you come up with a compromise. If you want a bigger ring, and you can afford it, then I don't see anything wrong with it. I can't do it though-- I'm too attached to the one he gave me. So I've decided to go with a 1/2 carat diamond eternity band to wear next to it. :)
Jen
I agree with orangecuse.
Just read your question, and I truthfully think you should ride the tide, and wait patiently for the new ring. Im sure he has every intention of getting a better one, especially since you voiced your opinion, but maybe right now still is not the best time for that to happen. I think if you pressure him about it, he is going to feel insecure, and that could spell trouble. Hold tight, your jewel will come, and you'll be happy you waited!
~Erin
I agree with you Butterfly. It wouldn't be right or fair for you to be "sensitive to his feelings" and give up an upgraded ring when it's something the two of you agreed on before hand. Unless, of course, you put a gun to his head to get the agreement in the first place, which I'm assuming you didn't. To me, an upgrade ring would be every bit as special as the first one, maybe more so as it would represent the more solid and secure relationship the two of you have built, both emotionally, physically and financially. It would be a statement of a stronger, more mature and very much still loving relationship, of how far you've come, you know?
~ cl-2nd_life"Experience is what you get
when you don't get what you want."
~ Author unknown
"Ignoring the facts
does not change the facts"
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