Never see each other due to schedules :(

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Never see each other due to schedules :(
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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 10:33am

I am going to cry. We have been married 2 months and hardly ever see each other due to work schedules. I leave the house at 5:30AM and get home about 4:00PM. Hubby leaves the house around 1:30PM and gets home at 12:30 AM. The only time we overlap is when I'm sleeping and even then he usually doesn't come to bed until after 3AM. And on top of that, he has to work 2 weekends on and then gets one off so even then he's gone from noon until 9PM.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 1:00pm
Welcome to the board, Mapper71 ~

Your schedules aren't much different than my husband's and mine. I work 8-4:40, he works 5-1:30. It is frustrating that weeknights are pretty short (3.5 to 4 hours )and if there's anything you want to go out and do it's pretty much out as he goes to bed at 8:30 or 9:00. Friday night is "transition" night for him, he stays up as late as he can so that Saturday night we can go out and do things. While I agree that the differing schedules put some limits on what you can do, there are benefits as well; having dinner ready for you when you get home from work, for instance : ) and while it is limiting when there's something you'd like to get out and do with him during the week, the benefit is you have time to yourself in the evenings. As someone who enjoys alone time, I appreciate that. Since you lived on your own for years before moving to him, you probably enjoy having that time too.

As far as not knowing the new friends you've made well yet, that comes with time and there's nothing that will remedy that other than continuing to spend time together. Relationships have to be built, they don't become close right away. If you're bored, it's really your job to occupy and entertain yourself, not your husband's. Take the opportunity of evenings to yourself to get out and explore. You might also join a club or organization, take a class, volunteer, or find some activity that interests you that you can do. That will not only occupy your time but it will have you meeting others who have similar interests to you and with that, the potential for new friends.

Since you can't change the times you work, you have to make the best of it, enjoy the time you are together and use the time you're on your own to improve things for yourself.

















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