No birthday gift from my husband

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Registered: 03-08-2011
No birthday gift from my husband
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 12:34pm

Hello,

I don't

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 11:47am

OK I just have to point out - flowers, balloons, several cards to me fits the bill for THOUGHTFUL and INEXPENSIVE.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 2:53pm

My ex MIL was a terrible gift giver.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 3:45pm

I don't think as a rule men are as "creative" as women can be. They struggle to find the perfect gift for their wife or girlfriend. I think women just have an easier time coming up with the perfect gift - whether it be for their husband, brother, sister, mom, etc.

I know my boyfriend always wants to buy his parents something for their birthdays which I think is extremely sweet. Unfortunately, this usually means we're at Wal Mart the night before their birthdays wandering aimlessly through the store trying to find something he thinks they'll like.

I say don't be upset he doesn't buy a gift for you - enjoy that he buys balloons, flowers and a card. If there's something you want - tell him. Don't expect him to just know. He'll never think of it himself.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 9:36pm

I'm glad you and I could relate, it does help when someone understands how you're feeling and I hope you're able to resolve your issue in a way that makes you feel good.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 03-08-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 9:49am

Yes you make some good points earnhardt!

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:50am

If he gives great gifts at other occasions but never on your birthday, it makes me wonder what birthdays are like in his family of origin?


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 05-22-2006
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 5:49pm

Interesting point about his family of origin. My family was very into birthdays but now I've found my husband's family was not. Still, it is important to me; since it's important to you, so should it be to him!

My solution was to build a wish list on Amazon. All he has to do is click and it automatically ships here and he can even have Amazon wrap it! I still have to remind him in advance to look at the list...baby steps :smileywink:

For me it was also the idea that he thought about me in advance and wanted to do something because he cared about my happiness, not because he felt obligated...like "oh sheesh....i forgot the birthday...better run get something." I never care how much or even what it is; just want to know he took the time.

So, consider an Amazon wish list or other online gift registry...then have him bookmark it on his computer!

Good luck :)

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 10:29pm
Amazon wish list is a great suggestion!

Our thoughtfulness theories just differ, that's all. I'm not bitter; in fact grateful for all that I have!
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Registered: 03-08-2011
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 7:57pm
Sienna, That was my first post to ivillage and I found you to be a little rude. i was looking for suggestions and help and I felt you insulted me.
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 11:44am

Hi Lynn and welcome to the boards.

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