OK I just have to point out - flowers, balloons, several cards to me fits the bill for THOUGHTFUL and INEXPENSIVE.
My ex MIL was a terrible gift giver.
I don't think as a rule men are as "creative" as women can be. They struggle to find the perfect gift for their wife or girlfriend. I think women just have an easier time coming up with the perfect gift - whether it be for their husband, brother, sister, mom, etc.
I know my boyfriend always wants to buy his parents something for their birthdays which I think is extremely sweet. Unfortunately, this usually means we're at Wal Mart the night before their birthdays wandering aimlessly through the store trying to find something he thinks they'll like.
I say don't be upset he doesn't buy a gift for you - enjoy that he buys balloons, flowers and a card. If there's something you want - tell him. Don't expect him to just know. He'll never think of it himself.
I'm glad you and I could relate, it does help when someone understands how you're feeling and I hope you're able to resolve your issue in a way that makes you feel good.
Yes you make some good points earnhardt!
If he gives great gifts at other occasions but never on your birthday, it makes me wonder what birthdays are like in his family of origin?
Interesting point about his family of origin. My family was very into birthdays but now I've found my husband's family was not. Still, it is important to me; since it's important to you, so should it be to him!
My solution was to build a wish list on Amazon. All he has to do is click and it automatically ships here and he can even have Amazon wrap it! I still have to remind him in advance to look at the list...baby steps :smileywink:
For me it was also the idea that he thought about me in advance and wanted to do something because he cared about my happiness, not because he felt obligated...like "oh sheesh....i forgot the birthday...better run get something." I never care how much or even what it is; just want to know he took the time.
So, consider an Amazon wish list or other online gift registry...then have him bookmark it on his computer!
Good luck :)
Hi Lynn and welcome to the boards.